Do you ever get so sick of seeing relationships everywhere you look? Do you cringe when you see public displays of affection? Do you get annoyed when that is all your friends can talk about? If so, you are not alone. I am personally always annoyed with relationships. There is a point at which you should keep your relationship private. I will give you certain moments, such as an anniversary, an engagement, a marriage, or any other important time. However, there is no need to publicize every single thing you two do together.
I have had some decent relationships, in which I personally was part of a couple that posted everything. I was spending every day with my boyfriend, and all I wanted to do was post about them. Now, I realize my mistake. I was too caught up with everything to live my own life. Maybe that’s the reason why I cannot stand looking at relationships, especially through social media.
I personally learned my lesson. Relationships are not the best thing going on in your life. Sure, they should be healthy and encouraging, but they are not the only thing in your life. You need to have goals and dreams that are above simply a relationship. When I was in high school, all I wanted to do was have a great relationship in which I would be happy and my friends would be jealous. However, the one relationship that meant the most to me ended badly. My boyfriend wanted to stay close to home for college because of me when his dreams were really to attend college about 1000 miles away. Although I tried to talk him out of it, he ended up attending college a few minutes away from home. I stuck with my original choice for college, and I cannot be more proud of that decision. I watched multiple couples my age go to the same college, and honestly, most did not work out. My relationship simply was not meant to be, and had we gone to the same college, things would have been worse. We were too attached during our time together, and we were too attached even when it had to be through skype or phone calls. We started out as one of those couples posting pictures and thank you comments for every date we went on, but as we began to fade, the pictures and status updates also faded. Social media hurt us a lot as a couple, and without the constant push to make our relationship look perfect, I think we could have made it through.
Now, I look at the publicized relationships from my friends, and I see someone desperate for attention. I do not need to see pictures from every date or every double date for that matter, and I do not need to be positive that the relationship is going strong. I would rather hear about relationships from that person so that I can be a friend. Otherwise, I do not want to see it. It is a cry for attention, and it is simply making the relationship toxic. Instead of focusing on your perfect relationship on social media, maybe spend that time actually trying to make the relationship that great in real life.
