Once you become single, it's inevitable you face the single world. When you've been single for a while, you're used to the single world. It's a place where boys find it appropriate to do and say things that are highly offensive, Netflix and Chill is seen as "cute" and playing beer pong together is seen as "couple goals."
I, like every other girl in the world, want someone to love me. I, unlike a lot of the girls in this world, understand that there is someone out there for me and only time will reveal that person. I didn't need a boyfriend in high school to justify my worth and I don't need one in college to prove any point. I am happy with who I am as a human being, knowing that my previous relationships helped me grow and my future ones will bring me more happiness and experience.
That being said, I feel like this time of year everyone is caught up in finding a significant other to cuddle with through the night and most days. There are relationships formed that are only done so because there is no one else on the market, no one else better or nothing better to do (sidenote: not all relationships are like this; for the real relationships out there, keep doing you.) But we all know the kind I'm talking about: the people who get together during the winter months only to be single before the first bikini is brought out of the back of the closet.
It's useless. Why do people get involved in relationships "just because?" I feel like that's too much time and effort. Is it just for the label?
I've heard so many people referred to as "so-and-so's girlfriend." And it got me thinking: I don't want to be "just" a girlfriend. Actually,I could think of a million other things I would rather be and be called than "just a girlfriend" at this point in my life. I even compiled a list of things I would rather be and be called (in no particular order):
1. Friend.
2. Loving sister and daughter.
3. Member of the dean's list.
4. President of an RSO.
5. Writer for Odyssey.
6. Dependable and timely person.
7. Fashionista.
8. Lipstick hoarder (don't worry guys, I already have this one covered).
9. Good and hard-working student.
10. Someone who makes people feel welcome and comfortable.
11. Leader.
12. Avid reader.
13. Compassionate.
14. Forgiver.
15. Strong, independent adult who can make their own doctor's appointments.
16. Future author.
17. Coffee consumer.
18. Confidant.
19. Peacemaker.
20. Adventurer.
21. Traveler.
22. Dreamer.
23. Inspired and inspiring soul.
24. A really good Insta caption maker.
25. Loved.
26. Someone who strives for success.
27. A people person.
28. Professional.
29. Respected.
30. A Belieber (I'm not, Sorry either people, learn to Love Yourself).
31. A gym-goer.
32. Someone with really good taste in music.
33. Doer.
34. Volunteer.
35. The person you don't want to lose and miss if you have lost.
36. Dance-a-holic.
37. Hilarious.
38. Sass Queen.
39. Activist.
40. Fighter (life knocks me down and I get right back up).
41. Someone who isn't afraid to laugh at themselves.
42. A person who is comfortable and confident in their own skin.
43. Risk-taker.
44. The person who always apologizes when they're wrong.
45. Someone with a big heart.
46. Someone who keeps their promises.
47. The person who always makes and maintains eye contact.
48. Fearless.
49. Feminist.
50. Someone who can talk to anyone.
Trust me, there is plenty more. Some of these are funny and others are realistic adjectives and descriptions, but the point is this: I don't want to be "just" a girlfriend. I want to be an individual who helps another individual grow to their full potential and together, we make each other better. I don't want to just be a label or arm candy, I want to be all those things on that list and so much more. And I want someone to see those things in me, be proud and enter into a relationship with me because they are infatuated with who I am, what I'm doing, and where I'm going in life. It is because of this desire that I will not settle to just be someone's girlfriend but rather wait for the right one.
