5 Ways To Move On From A Toxic Relationship

5 Ways To Move On From A Toxic Relationship

Stay positive and keep moving forward.
Lindsey Ocock
Lindsey Ocock Jan 31, 2017
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There are many things I want to do in 2017. Leaving negativity behind is one of them.

I'm a pretty organized gal when it comes to making lists of tasks I need to accomplish during the day; however, when it comes to mental baggage or overthinking, I tend to hold onto every little detail and dwell on it. Last August, I moved to college and brought a lot of sh*t with me — literally and metaphorically. But with my first semester being over and the new year in full swing, I'm happy to say I left the bullish*t in 2016. If you're like me trying to turn over a new leaf or just lead a more positive life, here are five ways to move past toxic relationships and unmemorable moments bringing you down.

1. Let things go.

When something comes up about the relationship you're trying to move on from, picture everything you've been trying to let go of floating away from you. Put whatever is bothering you in a box and close it. Literally, picture the box closing — it sounds a little silly, but it really helps close any mental doors that are still open. This is a new chapter for you and you're not going to let this bring you down any longer.

2. Keep your distance.

To go along with number one but definitely just as important — delete their number so if you feel tempted to call them at a weak moment their name won't be blatantly staring reminding you of the past.

3. Focus on yourself.

The relationship was toxic but not everything was bad, right? Whether it was the amount of attention your significant other or friend gave you or you just don't want to be alone, forget about it and just focus on yourself. If you feel like you want to talk to them or you need their attention, stop and love yourself! Do something for yourself because it's all about you.

4. Organize your space.

Sometimes when your mind is clouded and your home is messy it doesn't help you focus on what you want to accomplish. Declutter your life, clear your mind.

5. Go out with your friends.

Whether you go out to meet new people or just have a chill night with your best friends — it is always a good idea to do something you love with people who truly care about you and your happiness. Surrounding yourself with positive people will make you feel better about the outcomes of your life and the hurdles you may face.

Remember, you can't move on from something in a day, but the fact that you're working towards leading a more positive and simple life is a huge step. Just remember, stay positive and keep moving forward!

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Lindsey Ocock
Lindsey Ocock Jan 31, 2017
At College of Charleston

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44 Lyrics For When You Need An Instagram Caption

Your caption is just as important as the filter.
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Choosing the caption for your Instagram can be almost as challenging as deciding on a filter. So, if you’re ready to post that Insta, but don’t know what to say, here are 44 lyrics for when you need an Instagram caption.

1. “Be young, be dope, be proud.” - Lana Del Rey, "American"

2. “I can’t really see another squad tryna cross us.” - Drake, "No Tellin’"

3. “Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.” - Taylor Swift, "Blank Space"

4. “I’m throwin' shade like it’s sunny.” - Nicki Minaj, "Want Some More"

5. “I’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist.” - Sia, "Chandelier"

6. “Find me where the wild things are.” - Alessia Cara, "Wild Things"

7. “If I was you, I'd wanna be me too.” - Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"

8. “Sweet like candy to my soul, sweet you rock and sweet you roll.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Crash Into Me"

9. “I swear this life is like the sweetest thing I’ve ever known.” - Drake, "Over"

10. “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.” - Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance"

11. “But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing’s changed at all? - Bastille, "Pompeii"

12. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” - John Lennon, "Imagine"

13. “You can’t choose what stays and what fades away.” - Florence + The Machine, "No Light, No Light"

14. “She acts like summer and walks like rain.” - Train, "Drops of Jupiter

15. “She’s a good girl, loves her mama. Loves Jesus, and America too.” - Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, "Free Fallin’"

16. “Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones.” - Coldplay, "Fix You"

17. “Say you’ll remember me.” - Taylor Swift, "Wildest Dreams"

18. I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart.” - Sia, "Elastic Heart"

19. “Give me the beat boys and free my soul.” - Uncle Kracker, "Drift Away"

20. “One of these days the clocks will stop, and time won’t mean a thing.” - Foo Fighters, "These Days"

21. “Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.” - Brad Paisley, Perfect Storm

22. “You are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need.” Zedd feat. The Foxes, "Clarity"

23. “Her mind is Tiffany twisted, she’s got the Mercedes bends.” - The Eagles, "Hotel California"

24. “Life imitates art.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

25. “Nobody said it was easy, no one said it would be this hard.” - Coldplay, "The Scientist"

26. “You’re gonna keep my soul, it was yours to have long ago.” - State Radio, "Keepsake"

27. “Celebrate we will ‘cause life is short but sweet for certain.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Two Step"

28. “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” - Florence + The Machine, "Shake it Out"

29. “There are many things I’d like to say to you but I don’t know how.” - Oasis, "Wonderwall"

30. “You say you want a revolution, well you know we all wanna change the world.” - The Beatles, "Revolution"

31. “God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy.” Billy Currington, "People Are Crazy"

32. “Well my heart is gold, and my hands are cold.” - Halsey, "Gasoline"

33. “I don’t want to be heard, I want to be listened to.” - Twenty One Pilots, "Forest"

34. “Where you invest your love, you invest your life.” - Mumford and Sons, "Awake My Soul"

35. “I think I need a sunrise, I’m tired of the sunset.” - Augustana, "Boston"

36. “All of these lines across my face tell you the story of who I am.” - Brandi Carlile, "The Story"

37. ‘Ready or not, here I come. Where you at? The night is young.” - Bridgit Mendler, "Ready or Not"

38. “In the land of Gods and Monsters, I was an angel.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

39. “Turns out not where, but who you’re with that really matters.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Best Of What’s Around"

40. “Know yourself, know your worth.” - Drake, "0 to 100"

41. “I’m little but I’m coming for the crown.” - Lorde, "Still Sane"

42. “Didn’t they tell you I was a savage?” - Rihanna, "Needed Me"

43. “Hands in the air like we don’t care.” - Miley Cyrus, "We Can’t Stop"

44. “I’ma keep running because a winner don’t quit on themselves.” - Beyonce, "Freedom"

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I Am My Top Priority In This Season Of Life, And I Am Making No Apologies For That

Truly, being my own number one priority may be a work in progress, but my life has only gotten better by it.

Kaitlin Pastor
Kaitlin Pastor Jun 18, 2018
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It has been said time and time again that your twenties are your 'selfish' years. As an extremely empathetic person, I struggled with this concept for the longest time. Always trying to please others, live up to preset expectations, and focus on those around me are common traits of mine, so it has taken great practice to fully understand the truth behind those words.

There is no other point in our lives quite like the time we are living in currently. Throughout high school, we have rules and restrictions from caring parents who may worry a little too much. After college, we have careers and families unfolding which brings about more responsibility than we can even fathom right now. The time in between is the only time where we can focus on ourselves without any (major) restrictions.

However, this is not meant as 'selfish' in a sense that you can focus only on yourself without possible repercussions on those around you. Understand this 'selfish' decade as a time to prioritize responsibility, figure out what you want out of life, and go get it. As cliche as it sounds, you really will find who you need to be.

After spending my first half of college struggling to be 'this' or 'that' for other people, I have learned some valuable lessons. More than anything, my ability to say "no" when I'm too busy or more than likely just not wanting to do something, has become my biggest blessing.

Trying to get into nursing school (and my path leading me there) has been the most time consuming, stressful, indescribable struggle, and I simply just do not have the time or patience to be a part of things I do not truly want to be anymore. Beyond that, it has taught me how to prioritize my responsibilities, set effective goals, and understand exactly what I want to do for ME.

While I still look to my family and close friends for advice and see to it that my relationships with them do not suffer, I know that by doing the right thing for me right now, it will in turn improve my relationships with them later. After all, you cannot pour from an empty glass.

Overall, do not be afraid to be selfish throughout this season of life. Put yourself and your needs first, and you will see that happiness is much more easily attainable that way. Learn to say no, work your ass off, and grow into the person you have always been meant to be.

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Kaitlin Pastor Jun 18, 2018
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