As you move on from high school into college, you begin to mature and notice things that before went over your head. As an adult, you develop a better sense of discernment and wisdom; regardless of these qualities, however, you can become blinded by friendships or relationships that you think are secure or good for you. This is why it is good to know if these friendships or relationships are worth having, or if they are just bringing you down. Here's five ways to determine whether your friends are real, or fickle.
1. Being out in public together.
When you are out in public with your true friends, you are having a blast. No matter what you are doing or where you are, you will always find a way to enjoy your time together. If who you're with is really your friend, you are going to have a good time no matter what, and so are they; they are not going to be looking for more entertaining things like scrolling down their Instagram feed, or checking for texts every five minutes.
2. Making time for each other.
Sure, as adults or even high school students, we all admittedly lead very busy lives. Whether it's work, school, church, or anything else, we have a lot of things on our schedule. However, as human beings, we definitely need to incorporate socialization into our lives. That being said, we make time for whoever is important enough to fit into our schedules. If they're not making time for you, you could probably live without them-- you've done it this far right?
3. Phone conversations.
If you are close with someone, conversations are comfortable. They are also random and spontaneous. Real friends are not afraid to talk with you about life, love, or food they ate for breakfast. They're also not shy to pick up the phone and actually hear your voice. If someone is being short with you, or does not put much effort into communicating with you, it would be a good idea to spend your time on someone who calls you, or gives you more than just a "Nothing much, you?"
4. Listens to you.
Speaking of conversations, good friends know that you need to be heard too. I'm sure we can all think of at least one person that always needs a listening ear, but doesn't lend one. Some people talk to us and only do so when they need something or want to vent. Good and real friends know that you need to be listened to as well.
5. Knows you.
Real friends are best friends. They know most everything there is to know about you, if not everything. They know what makes you happy and what makes you sad; and if you are sad, they know how to cheer you up. The key to them knowing things about you is taking interest. If they really care about you and care to know about you, they are going to do their best to get to know you. It's not all about them, and it's not all about you. It's just about friendship.
