“Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.” -Anonymous
For most people my age, long distance relationships often start with one or both of you going to college, which leaves you with two options, breaking up, or being in a “long distance” relationship. The words are cringe-worthy, they have a terrible reputation and a lot of people won’t understand why you choose to be in one. It’s tough, and it’s incredibly hard, but also so rewarding and special. Don’t give up because of distance; as hard as it is to believe, long distance relationships do have their benefits.
1. It’s important for all couples to learn how to be apart
From being on your own you learn how to be your own person in your new environment; you learn things you like and don’t like and you learn about how to be happy on your own without constant support and affection. You figure out how you deal with new and challenging experiences. Relationships do give you confidence, but learning how to find it on your own is something that being apart from your loved one definitely helps with.
2. There is always something to look forward to
The anticipation of the next time you’re going to see each other can get you through literally anything. Seeing each other for the first time in a while is a magical feeling, nothing beats it. They are your best friend, and it’s like falling in love with them all over again. Seeing them step through the airport door, out of the car or train, and seeing their face is one of the best moments. It’s that “Finally” feeling that you’ve been waiting for.
3. It’s a chance to focus on yourself and your friendships
There are definitely friends that have felt neglected by you and the time you have spent with your boyfriend or girlfriend, so you can take this time apart to find your best friends, maybe a few future bridesmaids. I have met some of the best people in college this year, friends that I would never have found if I were constantly with a partner. They are friends that I can totally be myself around, friends that I can laugh with and cry with.
4. Little things become big things
For me, one of the most important things in life is appreciating the little things. When you haven’t seen your best friend in so long, the everyday things you used to do together become an even more meaningful experience. Things like watching movies, snuggling, making a meal together, grocery shopping, driving in the same car with the windows down. All these things become things you no longer take for granted.
5. You are loved even from miles away
That person is still always there and you always have someone to go to, having someone to tell the good and bad things of every day is something so special. Whether it’s a call, text, or letter, your partner makes sure to tell you how much she/he loves and appreciates you, and those little messages and acts of romance make the distance all worth it.
As hard as it may be, If it's someone you love, the time apart will be worth the time you get to spend together. And if what you have is meant to be, it will work out.
~Written with love and appreciation for my long-distance relationship. Thank you for loving me as I am~
