5 Times "Sex and the City" Got It Spot On

5 Times "Sex and the City" Got It Spot On

Carrie Bradshaw's advice to you all
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It's that time of the semester when everything starts to get dreary.

You're sick of the winter weather, the midterms and papers, the waiting for the summer, and actually being sick. I caught the flu last week, along with my entire campus, and was bed ridden for a couple of days. I found this frustrating as I like to keep busy, but Amazon Prime Video kept me well entertained with the first 6 seasons of Sex and the City.

I may be a cliche, but I had forgotten how relatable this show was, how every shoe-shopping experience, every argument, every relationship, is one which I have seen or had before. I collected some quotations here: five times that Sex and the City was spot on about my life.

1. 'Sexy is what I try to get them to see me as after I win them over with my personality.'

I look about fifteen, and while people say that I will be grateful when I am thirty, right now it is a real bummer to be labeled "cute" and "sweet" instead of sexy. However, after spending time with someone, I can show them that I am not actually the youthful girl my face presents. Instead, I am a strong 21-year-old, with a passion for travel, law, politics, and winning the bread for any future family I may have. Ambition is sexy, drive is sexy, mystery is sexy.

2. 'He doesn't even know me, the least he could do is get to know me before he rejects me.'

College teaches you that you are not going to be liked by everyone, but Miranda states something heartbreaking in her pursuit of a man. Men and women alike will often reject a person before getting to know them - something which I have experienced first-hand. As aforementioned, personality is the key to attraction, and appearances should be an afterthought. If you don't like someone post-coffee, then fine, but nobody deserves to be rejected off-the-bat.

3. 'Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.'

Carrie Bradshaw has become somewhat of an icon, even her biggest mistakes doused with strength, creativity, glamour, and beauty. At the start of the show, at already 30 years old, she demonstrates how not being in a relationship/married is not detrimental to your character. Furthermore, in a world which is becoming so much more accepting of women in positions of power - in the office, politics etc - it is obvious that "taking your time" with your relationships gives more time for you to work on yourself and your career.

4. 'It’s tempting to wish for the perfect boss, the perfect parent, or the perfect outfit. But maybe the best any of us can do is not to quit, play the hand we’ve been dealt, and accessorize what we’ve got.'

I don't believe in quitting, especially when the excuse is circumstances. When I hear stories of men such as Aron Ralston and Bethany Hamilton, I cannot bring myself to use my personal problems as excuses to quit. Sure, it's okay to give yourself a break now and again, and to pat yourself on the back for overcoming an obstacle, but without a push to "just keep swimming", how can you ever hope to achieve greatness or to be the best you can be?

5. 'The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.'

I leave you with a self explanatory self-love quotation. While on your search for friendship and companionship, learn to talk to yourself (maybe not in the literal sense), learn about yourself and your strengths and weaknesses, because only then will you find someone to accept you for the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Cover Image Credit: Marie Claire

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Not My Michigan

A Michigan student-athlete turned Registered Nurse on the Michigan Medicine contract negotiations in 2018.

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It's May 1st, 2016. I'm bright-eyed, eager, and graduating from the University of Michigan as a Nursing Student and Student-Athlete.

I am ready to take on the world the way that Michigan taught me how: fearlessly, compassionately, and wholeheartedly. I bleed blue. I know what it means to be a Wolverine and to represent the Michigan Difference in everything I do. I wear the block M on my School of Nursing scrubs and my Michigan Dance Team uniform well aware that it represents goodness, tradition, and excellence. I am determined. I am inspired. I am ready.

It's Monday, September 17th, 2018. What does Michigan mean to me now? I used to be so sure. Now, I simply don't know. So, what's the deal? How did my view on an institution become so indifferent in recent months?

I chose U of M to start my nursing career because it had the widely known reputation of putting its patients first, respecting its nurses, and providing the best care to patients in the state (5th in the country, to be exact). In my first year, as I was clumsily learning how to push patient stretchers, titrate intravenous vasopressors, and to communicate with the medical team, I proudly participated in our hospital's effort to achieve Magnet status.

When Nursing earned Magnet Status, an award given by the American Nurses' Credentialing Center and indicator of the strength and quality of Nursing at Michigan, I felt that same pride as I did in May of 2016.

I knew in my heart that I picked the best institution to develop my nursing practice and to give high quality, patient-centered care to anyone who walked, rolled, or was carried through the doors of Adult Emergency Services. The hospital's goals were aligned with mine and those around me. We put patients first, and more specifically, we put patients over profits.

I am lucky enough to work at a hospital that has been unionized for more than four decades. When I started working, the concept of a union was foreign to me. For those who may need a refresher, unions promote and protect the interests of all employees. They collectively bargain with employers to secure written agreements for employees regarding pay, benefits, and working conditions.

Collective bargaining agreements are legally enforceable contracts holding employers and employees to mutually agreed-to workplace rules and process to provide a fair and just workplace. The University of Michigan Professional Nurse Council, an affiliate of the Michigan Nurses Association, has been working diligently since January to bargain with the University of Michigan to protect me, the 5,700 nurses who work within the institution, and our patients. I'd like to think they're the good guys in this story.

Here's where things get sticky: David Spahlinger, president of our prestigious U of M health system, has publicly stated that Michigan is "committed to maintaining current staffing levels," but will not make this commitment in writing. Common sense is reflected in the most high-quality research on the topic of nurse-patient ratios and its direct effect on patient care.

Appropriate staffing allows me and my coworkers to give the quality of care that I know we have the ability to provide. High staffing levels are associated with reduced mortality, falls, medication errors, ulcers, restraint use and infections. Unregulated staffing is a significant barrier to nurses' abilities to provide optimal patient care and prevents Nursing at Michigan from providing what we know to be the Michigan Difference in healthcare.

UMPNC held voting on a work stoppage for unfair labor practices last week. Out of 4,000 votes cast by nurses at the U, 94% authorized a work stoppage in protest of the University's unfair labor practices. No date is set, but our elected nurse bargaining team now has the authority to call for action.

Thank you to Katie Oppenheim, who chairs our union, for reiterating in an article to the Detroit Free Press that a work stoppage is not our goal. "Our goal is a fair agreement which respects nurses and guarantees safe staffing. The university can remedy this situation immediately by stopping their unfair labor practices and bargaining in good faith."

I am proud to be a nurse and I hope that our efforts to keep Michigan a patients-over-profits institution are recognized at the community, state, and national level. Anne McGinity, David Spahlinger, and those who have the power to make Michigan the magical place I once thought it was, make like Nike and just do it. For the love of patients, nurses, and our great University. I know we are better than this.

(Stay Tuned, folks).

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It's Okay To Not Be Okay

Don't think that you have to be "on" 100% of the time, because that's very unlikely.

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A lot of people don't realize that it is okay to not be okay because they think that they have to be 100% 24/7, but that is unrealistic. You need to understand that everyone struggles and that you are not expected to be on top of your game every second of every day.

This doesn't mean that you need to go around telling everyone you're doing horribly when they ask you how you are doing, but don't let yourself believe the lie that it's not okay to not be okay.

I had a woman recently tell me that her faith in Jesus was questioned when they realized that she wasn't okay. She was so heartbroken because she knows where her faith lies, but that doesn't take away the hurt in her heart considering her situation. She knew that Jesus would and will see her through this situation, but it was going to hurt.

It's not okay for us to undermine others' worth when they're not okay.

If you're telling everyone that you're "great" 99.9% of the time then you're lying. I hate to say that, but we all struggle and nobody is exempt from it. Some may handle those days and moments better than others and that is great, but it's unlikely that those never struggle or have struggled a day in their lives.

I don't believe that this means we should relish in our angst, hurt, and disappointment, but that when we are hurting we shouldn't be made to feel less. We will have moments of weakness and while it's okay to not be okay it's important to seek someone we love and trust who will help point us to Jesus who will comfort us.

When you're hurting and you're not okay please seek Jesus. Find that person who holds you accountable and let them be there for you. Don't think you're not allowed to hurt, because it is okay, but don't let it consume you.

Jesus loves you and He will always comfort you, but you have to be willing. Seek Him and allow Him to hold you when you're not okay.

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