The INFP, also known as The Mediator, according to 16personalities, are defined as "true idealists."
"[They are] always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better," according to the site.
After discovering that this was the personality type that I possessed, I was shocked to discover that INFP's are represented by only 4% of the global population. Only 4% of people like me floating around on this Earth? It explains a lot, but it's also kind of tragic.
So does this small group of peacemakers interact with the rest when it comes to romantic relationships? Many elements of our perfectionist drive seem to reflect back on our personal lives.
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1. You constantly imagine the "perfect" relationship
Emphasis on those parentheses. You have it all planned out in your head. You wonder how your third date will go before you even get their Snapchat. You start to envision different scenarios where you hangout in a car and you have that ~moment~ where they look over at you while you're mindlessly looking in the other direction while they realize how perfect you are. Did I mention that they have no clue who you are??
You start comparing every little thing about them to this model you created in your head. Do they like Arby's? No? But you imagined your anniversary lunch to be AT ARBY'S.
As a result of this, nobody is good enough for you but you simultaneously throw yourself at basically anything because you're constantly searching for this perfect scenario in anyone that is nice to you.
2. You respect your partner's independence
Teetering pretty evenly between introversion and extroversion, you adore when they want to spend time with you, but also understand when personal space is needed, since you constantly find yourself needing to take a breather before getting back out into the world.
3. You over-analyze EVERYTHING
Text messages, social media posts, them rolling away from you in their sleep? All red flags for complete disaster; you start to break out the tissues and pre-made spotify playlist while they don't even realize that something is wrong.
4. You don't take criticism well
You're constantly telling your partner not to care what people think - yet look at what you're doing. It's different when it's someone you care about, I know!! But just take a second and chill, it's because they care about your overall being and don't want to see you have a conniption in the middle of the mall. (Which is also why they do it in public so you can't cause a scene because WE KNOW YOU WOULD)
5. You go out of your way to be the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend
Whatever you want, please just tell me and I will be very extra with it. I would literally deliver you anything on a golden platter and then constantly tell you how cute you are as you receive it,
Whether it's with gifts, affection or just taking the time to grow to like their interests, INFP's aren't here to play around. When we're interested (and things are actually going well for once) we're going to go hard or go home.
