College has given me many opportunities, but the one I most appreciate is the chance to discover myself. I have learned so much from being (somewhat) on my own, and I wouldn't have changed that for the world. Still, I can't help but wonder what my freshman year would have been like if I had known what I know now. Here are five things I wish someone had told me before I started college.
1. You don't have to have a plan.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?" If I had a dollar for every time someone has asked me that over the years, I might be able to pay off my balance at Mars Hill. Until the second semester of my freshman year, I didn't know the answer to that question. I had tossed around a few options, but none felt right. Starting college without a plan can be intimidating, but you have plenty of time to find your niche, so don't stress about it. Take a variety of classes, explore things you never thought you'd do. You might just surprise yourself.
2. College is the time to challenge yourself.
College is not just about the classes and the degree. It is a time for you to discover who you as an individual are. Be involved. Even at small schools, there are things you can do to expand your horizons and challenge yourself. So don't just sit around, do things! Say yes until your schedule forces you to say no!
3. At some point, you will fail.
F stands for fatal for someone who has never gotten one before. Getting a bad grade, not getting a bid, or failing some other way will seem huge at the time, but this too shall pass. Everyone fails at something at sometime, so learn from it.
4. Not everyone has to like you, and vice-versa.
This is a really tricky one, but it's important. You will encounter people who you instantly clash with, but you will also experience friendships that fizzle out. Make friends, but have the wisdom to know when friendships have run their course. Friendships aren't something you can force. Don't waste your time on someone that will cause more stress than happiness.
5. There are bigger things.
When you are homesick, or receive your first F or your friendship has fallen apart, it will hurt. But like all pain, it is temporary and you will recover. Cry a little, and then wait for the sun to come out, because it always does. God has bigger and better things planned for you than to sit in misery forever. You will survive.
