5 Things That Get You Friend-Zoned

5 Things That Get You Friend-Zoned

WARNING: Wait until you're actually in a serious relationship to show them your true grossness.

Honestly, girls probably don't friend-zone guys. But guys friend-zone themselves. I think it's honestly hysterical how (*cough* guys) get friend-zoned. the friend-zone is a funny place to be and if you're constantly showering them with compliments, asking them to hang out every day, finding excuses to talk to them if they don't answer your texts, stop it. You are most likely annoying them.

They probably still talk to you though, because people love attention and will keep you around. But if you are way too available and ready for them like that, there is no chase. No challenge. So you will most likely not be rewarding enough to date in their eyes. You aren't giving them enough room for the other person to fall for you.

1. You're trying too hard.

A relationship has to be equal giving and equal taking. If you are just pouring yourself onto someone, how are they supposed to catch true feelings? They're just going to think you're obsessing over them and they won't find anything interesting about you other than you are obsessed with them.

2. You're too comfortable from the very beginning.

Ya gotta make yourself attractive to the other person, period. Wait until you're actually in a serious relationship to show them your true grossness. You probably want them to think they can be comfortable around you, but if you aren't even sure they are all for you, don't do it. If you create this relationship to be as comfortable as a perfect set of friends from the very beginning, that will always be your dynamic within each other. You're trying to get their interest, aren't you?

3. You let them vent about other guys/girls to you.

If you become that best guy/girl friend, it's because you never made it clear that you have feelings for the other person (see #4 for more). You let them vent about their hookups, or people they are crushing on. You literally let them believe you are truly becoming one of their best friends. Next time they mention Annie or Brian, tell them "I really don't wanna hear about this" and get yourself out of becoming friend zoned.

4. You're not being clear on what the f*** you want.

If you are being way too casual and not direct, how the hell are they supposed to know you want them? You being too nice and too passive indicates that you don't get upset by them looking at you as just a friend. Act like you f***ing care. Let them know about your feelings and stop being so passive about it.

5. You're not showing affection.

The one thing that surpasses friends, is physical affection. Affection itself just means "a gentle feeling of fondness or liking", but throw the word physical affection and I think you understand where I am going. I take it as they're into me, and everything beyond this second I will be paying closer attention to. So get somewhere with it.

Let me know in the comments what else you think gets people friend-zoned!

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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When Everyone Around You Is In a Relationship And You're Still Single

You might feel pressure to start a relationship, but reconsider...


I'm not sure how or when exactly it happened, but it suddenly seems like everyone I know is in a relationship. While I'm happy for them, it can be kinda...depressing. Nauseating. Exhausting.

It builds slowly at first: the subtle side-eye you give your friend as they're on the phone with their S.O., the little pang of jealousy you get when your cousin posts their engagement pictures on Facebook, the way you feel when your Snapchat Stories are full of people on cute dinner dates.

Suddenly, it's a Thursday afternoon and you just snapped over an Instagram post of your friend and his boyfriend on their anniversary. We've all been there. I may or may not be there currently.

The worst advice you can get when you're feeling down about not having an S.O. is "Don't worry! You'll find someone!"(Especially when it's coming from someone in a happy relationship).

I'm here to give you the actual advice that you (and I) need to hear. You do not need a relationship to be happy, satisfied, or whole.

Here's the truth: you're gonna be just fine without a relationship. You are young. You are educated. You are ambitious and have your whole future ahead of you.

You are a complete person on your own who does not need another person to validate you or make your life worth enjoying. I'm not saying a relationship can't be satisfying and fun. I am saying that being in a relationship is not the end all, be all of happiness.

If you are spending your time waiting for a relationship and looking for it in every person you meet, you can end up missing out on so much of your life. Instead of being jealous of every couple around you and being bitter that you can't seem to find the "right person," try figuring out how to enjoy spending time as an individual.

You will have more time to devote to exploring new interests, developing new skills, and meeting new people. Your social, emotional, and mental wellbeing will become priorities.

Plus, just because you aren't in a relationship or looking for a relationship, that doesn't mean you won't have romantic/sexual experiences. You can still go on dates and develop relationships with people you are attracted to without the pressure to turn it into a serious relationship. Once you remove that expectation from your mind, you might even find it easier to meet, talk to, and connect with people.

When you stop focusing all your energy and hopes onto being in a romantic relationship, you open the door to new experiences, opportunities, and people. Most importantly, you are able to refocus and recenter your life around growth as an individual, which will lead to a healthier and more solid basis for any future relationships.

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