5 Things Nobody Ever Told Me About Parenthood

5 Things Nobody Ever Told Me About Parenthood

I am sharing my personal Parenting Experience!

When I first gave birth to my daughter I was ecstatic, this was going to be as easy as it gets. I loved kids and I especially loved small babies that I could cuddle with so the fact that I now had my very own baby to do these things with was incredibly amazing or so I thought. Now don't get me wrong I absolutely adored my new little baby but taking care of your own child in no way compared to the baby sitting gigs I had in the past. Sure it often resulted in having one of them occasionally poop on my rug but that that rug had seen throw up and God knows what else over the years so that was nothing. Why didn't my parents tell us it was going to be this hard? Here are 5 things no on ever told me about being a mom:

1. Kids Don't Sleep

No, seriously kids don't sleep or at least they don't sleep when you do and quite frankly it can often feel like an inescapable nightmare. It's as if they have all been wired to think that getting sleep isn't a good thing. I've even been told time and time again that as a child, I too was guilty of practically never sleeping and perhaps this was just my revenge from causing my parents to be sleep deprived. Whatever the case may be my little one hasn’t slept much since she was born and I”ll be the first to tell you it sucks. I’ve tried everything you can possibly imagine(within reason of course) to get her to rest a little while long but if I’m not holding her in my arms 24/7 I can practically forget ever having a good night’s worth of sleep.

2. Baby Food Isn’t As Easy As You Think

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As a kid, I remember going through the grocery store and wondering why parents often complained about the high prices of food. I just could never truly understand or grasp how one could complain about a jar of food that was only about .85 until one day I realized that generally, that one jar of food is literally what it looks like, a snack. Seeing just how quickly my daughter went through one jar of your most popular brand of baby food was ultimately what encouraged me to start buying more organic baby food. Organic baby food not only encouraged my daughter to grow at a more healthier rate but it also helped us space out her feedings a bit more because she wasn't left feeling as hungry as she had been in the past.

3.Kids Demand Attention

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Spoiler alert: Kids demand attention and lots of it. I knew when we first had our daughter that kids demanded a lot of attention but nothing in life could have ever prepared me for the amount of attention she needed on a consistent basis. When she was hungry she needed attention, when she was cold she needed attention, when was hot she needed attention and then there were some days she only demand attention simply because she knew she could.

4.Kids are Expensive

I remember when my husband I first went through marriage counseling, our pastor told us that we needed to make sure we had saved money before started having children. I never really understood what he meant by that until we had our first child and then I saw exactly why. From doctors bills, to clothes, to just the basic necessities of life, kids are extremely expensive. In fact, they are even more expensive than most adults I know.

5.Parenting Books Lie

Ever read any book about parenting? I hate to tell you but none of them will work. Before having my daughter I had read so many books about parenting and learning how to properly care for my child and none of that works. One of the greatest educators of life is experience.

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To The Girl Who Always Feels Left Out

Maybe next time...

To the girl who always feels left out,

Girl, let me just tell you, I know the feeling. It feels as though my whole life, I have been that girl. You know that feeling when you are standing in a group of people and someone comes up and asks everyone to go to lunch in that group... But you?

Or they make it even worse by saying "Oh, I guess you can come too." You guess I can come to?

No, thank you.

At that point, you feel like the only reason you are being invited is that they feel like they have to. Which more than likely is actually the case. What about when you ask your friend to hang out and she can't because she will be doing homework all night? However, an hour later, you see her with your other best friend. Oh okay cool, sorry for bothering you with my friendship.

You know you are the girl who is always left out when you are the designated "photographer" or you have to specifically ask if you can take a picture with them because they are obviously done taking pictures and did not want one with you.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who 'Float' Between Friend Groups

We all know "Hey, will you take this picture of us?" all too well. Am I right, ladies? Oh yeah, it is fine. I hate being in pictures. I definitely hate taking pictures to remember this wonderful time I'm having.

What about when you and your friends discuss doing something later during the week and you ask about it but "It's probably not happening anymore." Then you check and would you look at that, your "friends" are having fun without you.


Oh but don't worry about it, I had things to do anyway. You know, clean the house, work on homework that is due next week, binge-watch The Office for the third time this week. Fun stuff. Oh and better yet when you see your friends are hanging out without you. The next time they see you, they talk about how much fun they had.

Oh yes, please tell me about how much fun you had without me. I totally enjoy hearing about how "I totally missed out" and "I should have come." Well, an invite would have been well appreciated. But maybe next time, right? Wrong.

Yeah, I know what you are thinking, "Wow this girl is being so petty." Well if you are thinking that, then you obviously do not know the feeling. And to think about it, you probably are not the one in the friend group who is being left out. So think about who that person is and make them feel included next time. It would be greatly appreciated. You do not know how much of a difference it could make.

Yes, I know everyone feels left out sometimes, but time after time, it starts to get really old. Then after you have to start inviting yourself to hang out with people, you realize well since they are not inviting me themselves, maybe they don't want me here. And then surprisingly, you stop hanging out with them. Hmmm, I wonder what could've possibly happened.

Yes, I know, most people do not do this on purpose. I am sure I have even done it once or twice without realizing it, and I am truly sorry.

From one left out girl to another,

Good Luck

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The Shape Of The Monster: Depression

The second piece in a series about mental illness.


The last thing I want to do is glorify mental illness, give it a platform, give it a name. But I need to talk about it, to work through it, to show that it's something many people experience.

It goes like this.

Hey! Sorry I haven't called you back. Everything has been so busy.

Every time I think about even picking up the phone and calling you, something heavy but familiar sets in my stomach like a weight.

You know how things get.

You know how easy it is to want to slip into absolute nothingness, right?

I've been trying to write, but my writer's block has been limiting me a lot.

Everything I write is so bad. The flow is off. It doesn't sound like me. It feels so crooked and wrong. I can't do anything right.

How are things? Has work been alright?

I hope you feel successful. I hope things are easier for you. I hope you are as happy as you seem.

I'm okay.

I don't want to be here. I don't want to be anywhere. I feel crooked and wrong like I just want to scream and cry and dissolve.

I've just been so tired!

I have been tired for at least a decade. Tired of never sleeping. Tired of never feeling anything more than either absolute devastation and absolute nothingness. Tired. Tired. Tired.

I hope I can see you soon.

I hope I can bring myself to get out of bed and out into the world. I hope I can force myself to shower, and get dressed, and be a contributor to society, to social obligations.

I miss you.

I miss you.

I love you.

I love you.

I promise to call as soon as things lighten up a bit.

As long as the chemical imbalance doesn't destroy me altogether, hopefully, I can feign vague interest for a short phone call.


Goodbye for now, maybe goodbye forever, maybe I'll work up the courage to call you in another 2, 5, 7 weeks or so. My life is made of "maybes." Maybe one-day things will be better. Maybe one day I'll be happy. Maybe one day I won't be anything. Maybe.

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