When it comes to relationships, the constant battle between when to stay and when to walk away can take a toll on you. When you are constantly questioning whether or not you should be in a relationship, you begin to also question yourself.
I've always had trouble walking away from relationships, and I've been down the path where I was not only questioning the intentions of the relationship, but I began questioning myself. From all the questioning and over thinking and pondering; I have realized a few things.
First off, if you're sticking around in a relationship that you've been questioning it's one worth fighting for. We are all humans, and at the end of the day, whether we want to admit it or not, we are selfish. Even the most selfless person has a little bit of selfishness in them. You are not going to stick around and stay in a relationship that is causing you harm or making you extremely unhappy. If you haven't left yet and you've been through hell and back already, that is the first sign the relationship is worth fighting for.
1. Every time you leave, you keep going back.
If three days after an "I'm done with you," you end up giving it a second chance, for the 200th time, it is worth fighting for. How many times can you be put through the same shitty situation if it isn't worth it? You keep going back for a reason, and that reason is that at some point, things are meant to work out.
2. You feel comfortable being yourself around this significant other.
This is literally key. If you feel comfortable being yourself around this significant other than the relationship is worth fighting for. I've been in my fair share of relationships where I felt I had to be someone else in the relationship in order to please the other person. There is no use in fighting for someone that doesn't love you for who you truly are.
3. You have already opened yourself up completely, and the other person has done the same.
It takes a long time to open yourself up to someone and takes an even longer time to feel comfortable enough to do so. If you have been in the relationship long enough to have reached the point where you know absolutely everything about each other, from their goals in life to their family history, then the relationship is worth fighting for. The chances of you finding someone else that you will be willing to open yourself up to after this relationship is slim, and the amount of time its going to take might not be worth it.
4. Picturing your current significant other with someone else will never sit well with you... and you can't picture yourself with anyone else.
Even after every heartbreak and argument, if you still feel that green monster of jealousy on your shoulder when you picture your significant other with someone else, then it's not time to give up yet. More importantly, if you can't picture yourself with anyone else, then clearly the relationship is worth fighting for. Thoughts are powerful, the images you picture of yourself in your head are always a good depiction of where you should be in your life. Always trust that.
5. You still get butterflies when you see them, especially the first time after a big fight.
Those butterflies you get when you see each other after a fight in attempts to talk and work things out, occur because you are nervous things won't work out again, and you want them too. Those butterflies make every fight worth it because your relationship is just going to grow stronger.
If the relationship wasn't worth it, you wouldn't keep going back.
