We've all been there before. Your best friend calls you crying about how some random guy decided out of the blue that the relationship "wasn't quite right". or how he pulled the "just friends" card. Of course, we hear the same things. "He was the one", "I loved him", all of the attempts to justify his behavior. No. There is no excuse for treating a human being like crap to make yourself feel better. Yes, this can go both ways with a guy and a girl, but let's focus on reasons why that guy in your life may need to be thrown out the door.
#1. He doesn't call. Like ever. Yes, phone calls seem weird nowadays but only texting is not a relationship. Effort is key here. If a guy can't dedicate 20 minutes of his time to you, then please get out before even bigger dedications come along, like a wedding ring. Or you know, a baby.
#2. He only does what makes him happy. Ask yourself if the guy you're seeing has ever sacrificed a night out with his friends to watch a movie with you, or says no when he doesn't like a date night you suggest. If he has never done anything for you without putting his emotions first, then he's not the one you should be wasting your time on.
#3. He talks about other girls. No, not talking about his girl friends, or his mom. Girls that he says he'd like to sleep with if you guys ever break up. Yes, some guys will do this in an attempt to see if you get jealous. Jealousy is an ego boost. He wants to see your reaction. Not to mention guys that say these things tend to be the ones who end up cheating. Not worth it.
#4. He talks bad about your friends and family. Yes, not everyone is going to get along. However, if he can't be civil with your best friend or your favorite cousin, then there is something wrong here. The guy who deserves you will make the effort, regardless of how he actually feels towards those closest in your life.
#5. He leaves in the morning. Early. He tells you "he has plans", ones that never include you. Only sign you need that this guy is not the one. You're not a back up plan when he's bored, nor an object to use at night. You deserve to be someone's priority. If the guy you are seeing fits any of these reasons, then please do yourself a favor and leave. Find someone who actually deserves your time and effort.
