Being brutally honest takes a toll sometimes. Growing up, I was always back in the wings keeping quiet; I had a lot on my mind but was always too scared to speak up. In my recent years, I realized I didn't really care what people thought, if I had something to say I was going to say it; if people ask my honest opinion, you better believe they will get just that.
Here are five reasons why this gets difficult at times...
1. You get called a "bitch" often.
Okay, sometimes you need to have a filter; but also, it is super hard to have that filter. When someone says something you don't like or you need to bring attention to something, you will blurt it out before you have time to think. There has been many times where I have been called a bitch when I am not even meaning to, I'm actually a very nice person...just honest.
2. Friends ask questions you don't want to answer.
My friends often come to me for advice or my opinion on things, this is because they know I don't have a problem being direct and telling them how I feel on certain issues. With my friends, I feel I am the most honest because that is kind of my job as their friend. If their clothes don't look right they will know, if I don't like that boy they're with they will know (the boy will also know), if they're being an asshole I will be the first one to tell them. Sometimes they don't like hearing it, but they need to and they thank me for it later on.
3. You don't understand why people aren't brutally honest with you.
Obviously if I am straight up with you, you will be straight up with me right? Wrong. So wrong. Nothing is more frustrating than telling someone how you feel on a matter and they beat around the bush or tell you exactly what you want to hear. No! Just tell me, I can take it just as well as I dish it out. This is especially true in relationships: if people were honest about what they really wanted out of each other, things would run much more smoothly and more peoples feelings would be spared. It is better to find out sooner than later that he doesn't want a relationship or he actually does like you. That way we can mope about our loss, get over it, and move on with our lives.
4. People can't tell the difference between your sarcasm and honesty.
Along with being honest, I am also very sarcastic. This can get confusing to people and they don't know how to take you. I cannot begin to tell you how many times people at work have gotten mad at me at work because they think I am being serious, I am just really good at keeping a straight face. Eventually we hash it out and are on the same page. I also cannot begin to tell you how many times I have been dead serious and have had people laugh in my face or be sarcastic, like no...I am being real and you need to stop being a turd.
5. Someone is always mad at you.
You may have lost friends or gotten into serious arguments because you have told people things that they don't want to hear. But in all honesty, they probably weren't great friends from the start. If someone has the nerve to ask you for an honest opinion then get mad at you enough to not be your friend because of your answer, you are better off without them anyway. You get used to people being angry with you or coming in and out of your life, and that's how life works with anyone.
Why sugar-coat things? Who is that helping, ever?
