If it were possible to go back in time and give my 10-year-old self some advice, it would most definitely be to not grow up so fast.

As the years go by, I have noticed several things that I wish didn't happen, but sadly did. Losing friends, losing loved ones, gaining insecurities, having far more responsibilities, managing school and work: Life is one hectic rollercoaster ride that isn't always filled with sunshine and butterflies, so these are some reasons why growing up isn't the greatest.

1. Friends Forever

I have seriously lost more friends than I have lost weight my whole life, which is pretty sad. I wish it could be the other way around, but that's the sad truth. Those friends you used to talk to for countless of hours over the phone after school are living their lives without you now, and you're lucky enough to even get a "Happy B-day" post from them. What happened to we better stay friends in the future or the good ole' friends forever? Growing up you learn that words don't mean hardly anything, which is sad because when we were children words meant everything. Anything anyone would say to us as a child, we took it seriously, and now we can't even take what we're told seriously because we're afraid of getting let down.

2. Gaining Insecurities

Waking up early in the morning, getting ready for class spending over an hour trying to make sure your eyeliner is on point and thinking you're the next Beyoncé, until you look up at the mirror and think to yourself UGH! Do I really look like this? Why is it that we judge ourselves so much harder than we did when we were children? I cringe every time I look back at some old pictures of myself as a kid rocking some bell bottom jeans, and my favorite denim jacket with fur boots. I was certainly not the most fashion forward child on the block, yet I wore that with so much confidence. As we grow up, people become more judgmental, and we do, too, which makes it harder to accept yourself for how you are and what you look like.

3. Baby don't go breaking my heart!

Breakups...Oh the joy! Growing up you will certainly go through your fair amount of heartaches, but don't you fret, it won't be the end of the world even if it may seem like it is at the time. Breakups are all different. It ultimately all depends on how long you two were together, how serious you were, and how exactly the break up happened. Depending on that, you may cry yourself to sleep a few nights, eat a bunch of ice cream, work out the anger, or maybe you'll be happy that you don't have to deal with your ex anymore! Breakups may bring out the ugly in some of us sometimes, but overall you will learn a lot from a breakup so maybe this part of growing up isn't entirely all that bad.

4. All work and no play!

There comes a point in your life when you have to put down your Barbie dolls and toy cars and trade it in for bills and responsibilities. Once you finish high school, you basically have two choices, which are to continue studying or start working. Sometimes people have to do both so that they can actually afford to continue going to school. Something that is really troublesome is finding a job, since most jobs will not hire anyone without any prior work experience, which is completely insane because if you really think about it how do jobs expect you to have job experience if no one will even give you a chance to gain experience.

5. Tick Tock!

I'm late, I'm late! Growing up we definitely start to feel like the little white rabbit from "Alice In Wonderland," always living life at a fast pace trying to set a foundation for your future. Everyone strives for their version of their perfect future, whether it's striving to fall in love, get married, get a house with a white picket fence and a dog in the yard or even it's to live that single lifestyle always pushing towards success. Regardless, everyone feels like their clock is ticking and time is running out. Rushing to fall in love and getting a house sometimes doesn't work out and some complications like getting a divorce may arise, since people are too caught up in trying to get things done rather than just letting fate take its course.

Overall, a few quick tips to help you through these hectic moments in life...

• When it comes to growing up, it's not about the amount of friends you have, it's about who's actually genuinely there for you when things get rough.
• Keep in mind that everyone in life has insecurities, so learn to love yourself and don't let them define you. Embrace your imperfections!
• Love will always be a complicated journey that you'll have to overcome, I'm sure you'll have plenty of heartbreaks, but once you find the peanut butter to your jelly then you'll know that it was worth the wait.
• When it comes to joining the work field, don't bullshit your resume, dress to impress, and everything else will fall into place. Oh, and don't forget to pay those darn taxes!
• Don't rush through life! Take love one step at a time, and keep striving for success but make sure you make time for yourself and for those that you love.