5 Important Reasons To Love Yourself

5 Important Reasons To Love Yourself

Loving yourself: It's the key to happiness.


I've noticed I struggle with this immensely at times. I am SO good at loving others. I would go to the ends of the earth for the people I care about. But when it comes to myself... I fall short. This is such a sad thing, and I realize that. It IS possible to love others more than yourself, but the extent that you do can be unhealthy.

You are worthy of the same love you extend to the world, never forget that.

You are the only "you" out there.

I know people say this a lot and it seems extremely cliché, but it's so true. Not one person in this world has the same amazing qualities that you possess as a person. Your make-up and what makes you "you" is unlike anyone else. People can say, "Well I'm a good listener but so are a lot of other people." But funny thing is, you being a good listener isn't necessarily what makes you so special. It's your ability to combine that with all the other strengths that only YOU have. No one is like you. Embrace all the things about you that make you unique.

God made you exactly the way you are.

You were carefully created and knit together with every little detail in mind. Your beauty, personality, quirky habits, and gifts you possess are something that God planned on from the beginning as he was making you. He knew this world NEEDED someone like you. Someone with your kind eyes and loving heart. Someone with a gentle spirit and patient mind. Someone with all the qualities that combine together to make only ONE you. This world would be so different and dull without you. Do you realize that? That's the impact you make. That's the importance you have. How cool is that? That God made you especially, personally, and with a unique purpose. How you were created sets you apart from the rest. You should love the "you" that was so thoughtfully put together because not one thing about you is worthy of change.

You are your biggest fan.

At the end of the day, we are our biggest fans. We are responsible for motivating ourselves, supporting our dreams, pushing ourselves to be better, and loving ourselves genuinely. I can honestly say for myself, that when I have my mind set on something, it isn't changing. All of the people I love and care about could say something else, but at the end of the day, I am the only one I will remain true to if it's important to me. Because deep down we know we all must fill our hearts with the things we personally want and need that are best for us.

That starts with being kind to yourself and pushing yourself in healthy and encouraging ways. You are your biggest supporter. You are your biggest cheerleader. Celebrate your wins. Love yourself for your hard work. Motivate and cheer on your successes and accomplishments the same way you would a friend; because at the end of the day when everyone may disappoint you, you'll always have YOU to trust and appreciate. That is so important.

Everyone else does.

This is a big one. We are so good at discrediting ourselves. It's funny too, because we all have people in our lives that appreciate us and love us, showing us that love, but we can't seem to do the same for ourselves. Weird isn't it? That we are constantly shown that we are worthy of love by our family, friends, co-workers, or peers, and we still don't believe we deserve it at times. We don't love ourselves the same way that others love us. It's so sad. Because we deserve that.

Those who surround us show us how important we are, so why can't we recognize it ourselves? It's because we have a wall up protecting us from us. And letting ourselves in sometimes can honestly be one of our biggest struggles. The harshness of our own words can scar us. It can leave us blind to simple gestures of outside love, and completely deaf to our own. But the importance of building yourself up and utilizing all of the things that make you "you," instead of tearing them down, will break those barriers and allow you to see yourself for how you truly are: fearfully and wonderfully made.

You can accomplish anything. 

Once we can get past the barriers of protection and walls that we have built up, we can finally see our true selves. The selves that make us incredibly special and talented at whatever we aim to achieve in life. We see ourselves from a lens of beauty and appreciation, and we are able to love ourselves genuinely. Once we attain this ability, we can accomplish all of the things that we've wanted to before, but couldn't. It's freeing. It's a whole new perspective. And it saves us. Because once we have this power of self-love, nothing can drag us.

We open up a source of love that is abundant and overflowing. It is confident and strong. And it carries us. Because I think a huge part of loving yourself is believing in yourself. Believing that you are strong, beautiful, kind, and courageous. Believing that you are worthy. Because you are, and you always have been. You just have to find it within yourself. And once you understand this, you will be unstoppable. Nothing can break you down. Nothing can slow your motivation. You can love freely and without self-conviction, you can dream big and make it happen, and you can be so much more than you ever thought possible. In order to live the life you deserve, you have to love yourself the way you deserve. Wholly and without restraint.

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I Hate That I Struggle To Love My 'Midsize' Body

I gained a few pounds, but that shouldn't be the end of the world, yet it is in a sense.


Junior year of college has been quite the wild ride. I've had the best academic year of my entire life, yet struggled, in the end, to even want to get anything done. I didn't care about a lot of the things that used to matter to me.

I gained weight at the beginning of my second semester and went up a jean size, so half of my summer wardrobe just doesn't fit me anymore, and it's made me feel embarrassed. I went from a size 6 to an 8/10, and while it doesn't seem like a big jump to the average person, it was to me. I don't like looking in the mirror and seeing a bigger pooch than usual, or how my thighs have gotten super irritated because they also got bigger. Chaffing I used to only have in the summer occurred in late January and even scared my inner thighs. It's not cute and it hurts when it flares up. I am terrified to wear my bikinis again because I know they won't fit, and the second I put on shorts my thighs are going to want to kill me if I don't kill them first.

I came to really love my body last summer after struggling through a rough breakup where I stopped caring about myself. I owned myself last summer and as much as I want to again this summer, I'm really struggling with the idea of it.

All I feel like I see on social media are skinny girls with zero hint of a pooch or thick thighs in sight. I've never been a skinny girl and I never want to be, but I can't help but envy the people I've seen online and in person. Of course, what I see on social media isn't really accurate, but it's still been tough to look at these girls who seem like they don't have a care in the world. They can eat whatever they want and still look flawless. They can throw on a bikini and not have to feel like they need to suck everything in so no one sees their pooch hanging over their bikini bottom. As a stress eater who is still too terrified to try on her bikinis, I'm not looking forward to showing my body off when all I want to do sometimes is hide it because I don't feel happy with what I see.

I will always love being a curvier girl and YouTubers like Sierra Schultzzie, Carrie Dayton, and Lucy Wood have given me a new boost of inspiration to embrace the body I have right now. I'm not skinny but I'm not plus sized either. I feel pressure from myself and certain people in my life to be skinnier and not "let myself go." I

'm so happy to have friends who have helped me through my struggles and support me, even when I don't want to support myself. These YouTuber's have opened my eyes to the fact that this body deserves to be loved just as much as my former, smaller body.

I want to love myself with 100% of my being and I hate how much hatred I've allowed to go on inside of me. There is only one me and I need to be proud of her. Maybe she gained some weight and isn't what society expects from a girl, but she's still amazing and has so much to offer.

I wish I could see more girls like me on YouTube or social media offering a representation of my body type, which I hardly ever see. Aerie and American Eagle have done a fantastic job of including different body types and it's been a great help in seeing that they really to make clothes for all types of women, not just a size zero to two. Added representation really does wonders for someone suffering from low body confidence like me.

While I hope to begin my journey into losing a few pounds this summer by jogging whenever I get the chance, I'm not going to put intense pressure on myself to look a certain way. I am single for the summer and exploring life with my best friends by my side. I'm here to be the best version of me that I can. I cannot let negative thoughts about myself to dictate how I feel every day. I am strong, I am beautiful, and I need to love myself and my body as I am.

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Looking Back At My Past

When I moved out of my dad's house at 18, I learned several life lessons the hard way. It was an uphill battle to figure out "adulting." I hope this will give some people the ability to learn certain things without going down the hard path.


Life has a way of teaching lessons when you are overwhelmed. The more you are exposed to, the easier it is to learn these lessons. This article goes into what I wish I knew when I first got onto my own. There were many struggles, hardships and tough times you go through when you start your walk of life alone. But with it comes victories, and the knowledge of being able to get through anything. I hope when people read this article they will see what I put as a priority to learn when you become independent.

1. Money!

Learn how to budget! Learn how you're bank works, learn about taxes. Yes these seem like boring subjects, but money, or the lack thereof, can and will make your life miserable. This is something that many adults have trouble with, and it will put stress onto you. Just taking an afternoon to learn about what you need to do for your money needs will reduce stress.

2. Make at least one friend at the place you live.

The first apartment complex I lived at, I met a (I think) 45-50 year old man. I will not actually say his name but for this purpose his name is "Tim". Tim had lived in that complex for about 20 years, and he knew the staff and the residents. If I needed help or someone to talk to. He was more of a father figure than a creepy old guy. I was new to the town, living by myself, in the middle ground between a couple of in-town gangs. I needed all the help I could get, and when you have a connection it helps.

3. Know the differences between needs and wants.

Figure out your needs: food, rent, utilities. This type of thing ties into money and time. Do not invest too much time in people that are not good for you. Invest your time in your interests, hobbies, things that make you content. When you put your time in someone who at the end isn't worth it, it will occupy your mind months after they are gone.

4. Stay in contact with your family. 

My family is pretty distant to each other. We could probably go a year without talking and it wouldn't bug me. My mom and I have gotten close recently. Generally the 'after high school' years. My mom has helped me through hard times, she has leaded me an ear, or some tough advice. Yes we've had our hard times, but there are many things that I have learned from her. I understand that once you get out on your own, it is easy to stop talking to them; especially if you had a rough time growing up. A story for another time, but if you can stay in contact even if it's as little as a text from now and then. Family is something that is hard to replace once they are gone.

5. The way life teaches lessons. 

Life will teach lessons easy at first, then they will get harder to learn as we get older. An example of this is keeping your room clean as a child, then when you have an apartment. There is more cleaning to do. If you add kids and a house to that, it's even harder. My mom has an odd way of explaining this lesson. "It's like getting hit with a 2x4." The lesson first hits you, and it's small like a golf ball. Then the baseball hits you if you didn't learn before. Before you know it you get hit by a 2x4 and the lesson will hurt in someway. So please learn it before you get hit with a 2x4.

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