There are several myths about marriage that need to be debunked, but I've narrowed this list down to five.
Myth Number 1: Marriage Is A "Fix-All".
Truth: If you are broken before you say "I Do", you will still be broken after you say it. Meaning; If you have emotional wounds or addictions that have not been dealt with pre-marriage, you will have them post marriage. I realize that you will face problems together and you will learn to work through them together, but what I am saying is, your spouse is not the one who completes you, rather they are the one who complements you. Your wholeness can only come through Christ and your identity in Him should be firmly established before tying-the-knot.
Myth Number 2: Marriage Is A 50/50 Commitment.
Truth: You can not put in half the effort and expect a full outcome. Marriage is about two people individually putting in 100 percent of their effort to accomplish their vows.
Myth Number 3: Once I'm Married, I Don't Need To Pursue My Spouse Anymore.
Truth: You should never stop pursuing your spouse. Many married people have the mindset that says, "I've got them now, I don't need to 'go after' them anymore", but in reality, you should pursue them even more now that they have vowed their life and devotion to you.
Myth Number 4: It's OK To Lie To My Spouse.
Truth: Lies in your marriage, even small ones, will only lead to more lies. Yes, even though you have heard this statement all of your life, it doesn't discredit it's accuracy. Relationships are based on trust. In order to trust you must have truth. Regardless of how hard that may be, it is vital to the life of your marriage.
Myth Number 5: The Fun Stops When The Knot Is Tied.
Truth: This one is probably the most tossed around lie when it comes to marriage. People have even made an appoint to make it a tradition to have a foolish "one last night of fun" before saying "I Do". Let me be quick to clarify that I never knew 'fun' until I married my husband. Getting to spend my life with this hilarious, incredibly handsome man, has given me the time of my life. Getting to grow closer to God with him far out ways any other enjoyment that I've ever had.
I hope this article has helped you weave through some of the common misconceptions about marriage. Don't get me wrong, our marriage is not perfect but it is priceless and it is worth every bit of investment that we have put into it.
