If you are in a new relationship, a longer relationship, or if you are married, this is for you. Scrolling through Facebook one day, I saw a YouTube link for "The five love languages." The video goes into five different ways to give and receive love. I am not an expert, but here is the breakdown.

1. Words of affirmation.

This is verbal compliments, words of appreciations, and more. For example, "Babe! That suit looks so great on you!" "I really love how your hair looks today."

2. Quality time.

This is undivided attention. Put down your phone, make eye contact with your partner, and really let them see you listening. Your partner wants your time.

3. Receiving gifts.

Some partners feel love through gifts. For example, I went to Wal-Mart and saw a coloring book I really wanted. In the next few days, my partner surprises me with the purchase. Another example, I heard my partner talking about a board game with friends, I purchased the game to surprise him.

4. Acts of service.

This is simply doing things your partner will enjoy. For example, cleaning the house, washing the dishes, making dinner, ect. Simple things can go a far way.

5. Physical touch.

Some partners feel love best through physical touch. This doesn't mean just sex. This means holding hands, a playful kiss, or maybe a little squeeze on the butt. You can also try a hug, rubbing your fingers through your partner's hair, or a back rub.

Okay, so that is the break down of the five love languages. Here are a few things i have learned:

1. Love is not about you.

Love is not for you, it is for the other person. It is to make them feel loved, wanted, appreciated, funny, sexy, and all those other wonderful adjectives.

2. I was doing it wrong.

I loved my boyfriend the way I wanted to be loved. I did not consider him, I didn't even know it was possible someone could want to be loved in multiple ways.

3. I receive love best by words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch, and gifts. (In that order)

I need my boyfriend to tell me I am beautiful. I need him to tell me he loves me. I need him to be my boost of confidence. I love coming home to a clean house. I also love spending time curled up in bed watching Netflix.

4. Loving someone through their primary love language is hard.

It takes time to figure out how to speak their language. It takes trial and error. It can also leave you very frustrated because you feel like you're trying really hard and it isn't getting anywhere. However, you eventually get there. It will become second nature to you!

5. I didn't know how much more he could love me until he spoke my love languages.

You can be extremely happy and know nothing about the love languages. However, once you do know, and your partner loves you through your primary language, love opens up new doors.

If you have never heard about the love languages before reading this, I suggest you give it a try. It is hard work, but the outcome is beautiful. If you have been married for fifteen years, give this a try. It'll make you feel like two kids. Again, I am not a love guru. I'm just a girl with internet access and a passion for helping others. I provided a few links to further spark your interest in the love languages.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/couples/ This is a quiz to determine your love language.

"The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman is a great book!

Below is a video!