Growing up in an Indian household, I heard a variety of phrases. A majority of it was regarding classes and comparing to other Indian students. But, I came up with a list of 5 common phrases that every Indian child has heard of and possibly still hear while growing up and transitioning into an adult. Enjoy!
1. What level of Maths and Science are you in?
As a journalism major, I have never been good at math and science courses. I know a lot of friends and other Indian students that have suffered to get good grades in math and science classes just to make their parents happy. Afterall, how else will your child be an engineer or doctor? Let your child do what they want, not what you want them to do.
2. Your cousin/so and so's daughter or son are doing this... What are you doing?
Don't you love being compared? I know there is a massive competition out there but, comparing kids isn't helping. In fact, I feel like it broke my self- esteem. I felt like I wasn't good enough and I didn't have any confidence in myself. Be supportive of your kids no matter what they accomplish.
3. When I was your age...
Ah... Don't kids love a good lecture? Yes, we understand that you have had struggles in your life like biking to school in the burning heat of the motherland or immigrating to the United States for us to have a better life. But our generation also has some struggles. It may not have been the same, but we are just trying to get through the day, every day.
4. Are you going to school for studies or fashion?
This phrase is one my personal favorites because my parents used quite often while growing up. In my experience, a child should be able to dress comfortably without judgment. There were days when I was told to NOT wear a particular item of clothing, such as shorts on a hot day because a school was meant for studying and I would distract others. Yes, it may be expected for studying, but a school can also be a place of comfort and if other students are wearing shorts and skirts, why I should I suffer in jeans in the heat? So, let your child dress how they want to.
5. Shaddi? When will you get married?
Indian Weddings are a blast, and we love to party, but I have heard this phrase multiple times in my life, even though I'm a little young for marriage. I feel like Indian parents overexaggerate when it comes to marriage. Yes, it's important, but just because my roti is not perfectly round does NOT mean it's the end of the world. Marriage should be your child's decision and should not be forced upon. Love is love and love will always win.
Overall, growing up in an Indian household as its pros and cons. I love my parents and how they raised me, and I will always be grateful because I am #brownandproud.
