I read an article the other day (that I thought was ineffective) listing 40 skills that girls need to know before they turn 19. It contained many stereotypes that several girls might not do, like putting on makeup. So, I wanted to create my own comprehensive list of 40 things I want to be able to do in three years when I’m 20.

1. Change a tire, if she has a car.
2. Wash and load the dishes.
3. Study effectively, if she is a student.
4. Not care about other people’s opinions when it comes to her lifestyle.
5. Listen to and follow constructive criticism.
6. Effectively grocery shop for her price range and health needs.
7. Be eco-friendly, if she can afford to.
8. Stand up for herself and what she believes in.
9. Be conscious of what she buys,
10. But treat herself to something at least once a month, if she can.
11. Have confidence in herself.
12. Love the body she’s in,
13. And if not, slowly establish a plan to love herself.
14. Have the courage to de-friend those who take advantage of her, neglect her, and use her.
15. Reconnect with past classmates or family members, if she wants to.
16. Accomplish at least 3 things from her bucket list.
17. Learn how to cook her favorite meal.
18. Learn how to bake her favorite dessert.
19. Not be ashamed of her preference of TV shows, movies, books, music, etc.
20. Find a short, fun daily activity such as meditation or a crossword.
21. Drive a manual vehicle.
22. Know it is okay to show emotion in front of others.
23. Give back to her community, state, or world, in ways big or small.
24. Pick out or make a heartfelt gift.
25. Realize when she’s reached her limit mentally, physically, and emotionally.
26. Safely drink or do drugs, if she chooses to.
27. Take care of her skin and body, if she finds it important.
28. Realize when she needs to go to the doctor.
29. Get screened for breast (or any other type of) cancer.
30. Make gynecologist appointments.
31. Know when it’s appropriate to be on her phone versus when it’s not.
32. Defend herself in case of an attack, car hijacking, kidnapping, etc.
33. End a bad relationship.
34. Create a successful resume.
35. Ace an interview.
36. Have fun by herself.
37. Give basic first aid.
38. Use tools such as a drill, wrench, hammer, etc.
39. Say no when she is uncomfortable.
40. Ask for help when she needs it.