Your 20s are a time when you meet so many new people. Whether you’re in school, traveling, doing internships, or working, you’re making friends along the way. People will come in and out of your life and your 20s will really prove that to you, in regards to both friendships and dating. In terms of friendships though, these are the types of girls you do not want to surround yourself with and it’s perfectly okay to leave these “friends” behind:

1. The friend that only texts you when she needs something.

I get it, we’re all busy. Your 20s are probably the busiest time of your life and there just aren’t enough hours in the day to be able to check in with all of your friends and see how they're doing. But if you have that girlfriend that perpetually uses you for advice and then is nowhere to be found when you need some, that’s not a good friend. If you texted her to get her opinion about something on Monday, but she didn’t respond to you until Saturday and even then, she didn’t really listen to what you had to say and just rushed through her advice in order for her to go back to talking about herself, she doesn’t really value what’s on your mind and doesn’t really want to help you.

2. The friend that only wants to go out to take pictures.

You know this friend. She takes two hours to get ready to go out to a bar or club and then when you get there, she asks you to take at least 14 pictures of her, in various poses with a drink in her hand. And if you’re not being her personal photographer, then she’s just taking selfies for her Snapchat story, so you’re not even talking to each other or meeting new people. She basically just wanted to get dressed up to look pretty while sipping a drink and have everyone on social media see that she was out “having fun.” She just wants to go out to post about it, she doesn’t really want to make conversation and catch up with you. You need to ditch this person completely. Not only is she self-absorbed, but she traps you by going out with her and then doesn’t socialize. Networking is so important in your 20s and especially if you live in a big city, it’s important to talk to people other than the friends you initially went to the bar with. This friend makes it hard to socialize when her phone is in front of her face the whole time.

3. The friend that only wants to go out to get laid.

This girl is kind of like #2, but more superficial. She also takes forever to get ready, but it’s because she’s on the hunt for a man and that is her only mission for the night. It’s perfectly fine to go out with the intention of meeting guys and getting to know them or getting their number, but this friend just wants to meet guys to buy her drinks. And usually, if she doesn’t find a guy to pay her tab or give her attention, she won’t have fun for the rest of the night. And God forbid if a guy ends up coming over to talk to or dance with you instead of her, she gets jealous and just goes home. This is not a good friend because if guys don’t flock to her the second she walks in the door, she’s not sticking around for very long (even though she took an unreasonable amount of time getting ready) which means she probably doesn’t care if you get home safely or not.

4. The friend that puts other women down.

It’s okay if you don’t like to self identify as a feminist, but it’s not okay to be friends with a woman who makes herself feel better about things by putting other women down. That’s called a bully and it’s not fun to be around one. If you have a friend that calls other women “ugly” or “slutty” and expects you to agree with her for confirmation, you probably already know how uncomfortable it feels to hear her use those derogatory words and try to politely disagree with her. It’s one thing for your friend to comfort you after a breakup by reminding you of how beautiful and worthy of love you are, but it’s another thing for her to ridicule and criticize your ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend’s appearance, simply because it’s not you. It probably doesn’t make you feel good when she insults women’s physical features, such as curly hair, when you know that you also have curly hair. But to save herself, she says “but I would never say that your hair looks like a rat’s nest because you’re so pretty.” This friend is lying to you and if she can talk about other women that way, then she sure as hell can talk about you behind your back that way.

Don’t be afraid to leave these girlfriends in your 20s. I’m not a proponent of ghosting though, so before you go your separate ways, make sure you make them aware of the problems you have with the friendship and discuss them. Your 20s are when you figure out the kinds of people you want to keep in your life and it's when you’ll probably meet your lifelong friends, but these types of women are too self-centered to be able to support you through the trials and tribulations of your 20s.