Last week, the most depressing holiday for single ladies happened: New Year’s Eve. The majority of us single ladies wasted away the night with girlfriends (some of which were glued to their arm candy literally all night, yuck) and we pretended not to notice the impending doom that awaited us come midnight. The one moment of the year that you’re forced to stare your single life straight in the face as you watch couples literally all over the world smile lovingly at each other as they ring in the new year together.

While this annual moment of self-loathing can cause you to tell yourself to just accept the fact you’ll be forever alone with no one to kiss on New Year’s Eve except your two dogs and one cat that you adopted when you were feeling extra lonely that one day, being single is an opportunity to have resolutions that help you to grow as a person.

1. Be good to other people.

No self-respecting guy is going to want to go out with a girl that is rude to everyone she meets and never smiles. While I’m not saying you should change yourself for a guy, if what you want for 2016 is to finish it out with a boyfriend, be nice. Say thank you when someone holds the door open for you, be nice to the cashier at Starbucks even though you’ve only had two hours of sleep, smile when you pass someone on the way to class. These little things will not only make you look beautiful on the outside, but it will make you feel better in the long run. (Also, if you scowl too much it gives you wrinkles.)

2. Be good to yourself.

There are two things single girls love to do on the weekends: eat a pint of Moosetracks ice cream by themselves while they watch every Romantic movie on Netflix, or binge drink the night away at the nearest bar. Both of these options are terrible. I’m not saying you shouldn’t treat yourself every once in a while or have fun with your girlfriends but do so in moderation. Take those age-old resolutions like exercising more and eating better to heart. Your body will thank you, you’ll look incredibly hot in that new bikini on spring break, and you may even catch the eye of the hot muscle man you’ve been using your new gym membership to spy on.

3. Love yourself.

We’ve all had those days where we get up and look in the mirror and we want to cry. Nothing looks right on us, our makeup turned out horrible, our hair is the frizziest it’s ever been, and all we want to do is curl back up in bed and sleep the day away. Don’t do that. We all have flaws, nobody is perfect. Yeah, sometimes those jeans fit a little snug. Sometimes our hair doesn’t cooperate and we don’t know what is going on with our eyeliner. But, it’s okay. Learn to accept your flaws and move forward with the day. Accepting yourself and loving yourself just the way you are is the biggest step to finding someone else who loves you like that too. (Besides, if a boy doesn’t like you with frizzy hair, he’s not a keeper anyway.)

Being single as you ring in the New Year can help you to escape the usual, overused resolutions (exercise more, eat better, have an actual non-awkward conversation with someone of the opposite sex without the influence of alcohol, etc) and allow you to make resolutions that will actually make you feel better about yourself and your singleness (and may even land you with some arm candy of your own).