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I had 3 Different boyfriends In One Year And Learned 10 Lessons

Not every breakup has to be amicable, and some will end with angry conversations and the block button.

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I had 3 Different boyfriends In One Year And Learned 10 Lessons
Elizabeth Williams

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3 different boyfriends in one year: 2 months, 4 months, and I started a relationship with my current boyfriend, who I have been with for 2 1/2 years. 3 completely different personalities that entirely shaped my perspective on life, myself, and relationships. And taught me these 10 important lessons:

1. Relationships are great, until you are in one with the wrong person

Trust me, relationships are the absolute best and a source of happiness. But if you are in the relationship with the wrong person, it honestly is the worse thing ever.

2. Take risks

We often do not do something because we are afraid of the outcome, but taking risks in life and love are important. With my current boyfriend of 2 1/2 years, I actually made the first move to start a relationship and it worked out in the end.

3. Time is not an indicator of the strength of the relationship

Time is only a number, not an indicator of someone's feelings or longevity of their relationship.

4. Success is the best revenge

After a rough breakup, it is easy to want to get revenge on the person. However, I learned that having success while your ex does not is the best revenge. Nobody can ever take away or tear down your success.

5. Breakups with the family are sometimes worse than with the actual person

Honestly, sometimes we get more attached to our significant other's family than the actual person. Thus, sometimes when you break up with someone you actually miss their family more than them. Oops.

6. Red flags should never be ignored

If there are red flags in a new relationship, then get out! I learned the hard way that staying in a relationship, despite red flags, only leads to a broken relationship.

7. Never change for anyone

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Be your authentic self and if someone wants you to change, never do. Be with someone who loves you just the way you are!

8. Not everyone has to be friends

Not every breakup has to be amicable, and some will end with angry conversations and the block button. That is OK. In relationships, it is often difficult to shift from a romantic relationship to a platonic relationship, so do not beat yourself up, if the friendship does not workout.

9. If it is meant to be it will be

My current boyfriend and I met when I was dating my first boyfriend in the year (lol). We remained friends and towards the end of the year, we decided to date! You never know what will happen in a year.

10. You can not find happiness in someone else

Do not get in a relationship because you think it will make you happy because trust me it will not. You need to happy by yourself first.

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