It May Be 2017, But Chivalry Is Not Dead
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It May Be 2017, But Chivalry Is Not Dead

Wait for the butterflies, I promise it's worth it.

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It May Be 2017, But Chivalry Is Not Dead
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I know with the Feminist movement and "women power" struggles, the last thing on the mind of the majority of women in today's society would be chivalry. I mean why would a man need to hold the door open for a woman anyway, they can do it themselves and on and on go the sayings.

Now, I'm not here to tell you whether or not you should believe in or follow these movements; I'm simply here to tell you that amidst the controversy in today's society, chivalry has not died, it just takes a certain someone to prove it to you.

First, you may be asking yourself what exactly is chivalry?

Chivalry consists of "courteous behavior of a man towards a woman" and would include door holding, calling instead of texting, asking a woman out on real dates, walking her up to her doorstep, genuine compliments, and no expectations of sex.

Yes, all of the things listed above may be considered "old-fashioned" and many would argue that men with those qualities don't exist anymore; however, I don't agree, I simply believe that these men are harder to find, and I can guarantee you that you won't be meeting them at a club anytime soon.

If you're still reading, I'm assuming you're like me, a woman who dreams to have both a loving and caring man who would be my best friend, love me for who I am, continually challenge me to be a better person, and one who doesn't forget about the "little things" such as the door holding, the sweet genuine compliments, and the real dates. And although hard to find, I can promise you it still exists because I've seen it firsthand.

As cheesy as this is about to sound, about a month ago a man I had gone to school with, called me out of the blue and asked me out on a date, a real date, the kind where you go to a sit-down restaurant and talk for hours on end. He picked me up from my house and actually knocked on my door without a text saying "I'm here". When we got to the restaurant he went out of his way to open both doors for me and even stopped me when I tried too. After dinner, he walked me up to my door where I invited him inside and not for sex I might add, but instead to meet my family and he happily agreed. After a few hours of laughs and great conversations, the night was over and he hugged me goodnight, and the hug was all I needed. So needless to say, my smile and facial expressions showed it all-- chivalry was not dead and courteous men still existed, they just appear in the places and at the times you don't expect them too.

So ladies if you're looking for that "old-fashioned" sort of love that gives you butterflies and makes you smile from ear to ear, don't settle because chivalry is not dead, it's simply a little harder to find, but once you do, I promise it's worth it, don't lose hope.

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