As cliché as it sounds, the new year means a new you. The upcoming year is a blank slate, to make memories, set goals, accomplish goals, go on adventures, the possibilities are limitless. 2016 should be a year you invest in yourself. Maybe one of your New Year's resolutions is to have a more positive outlook on life.
Having a more positive outlook on life for the upcoming year requires a lot of things: surrounding yourself with positive people who are influential and beneficial to your wellbeing, changing your mindset, looking for something positive in each day, and last but not least, removing negative people from your life. Negative people are toxic sludge to your mind and body. They constantly weigh you down with their words and actions, they never seemed to be pleased with what it is you are doing, and they always critique you on things that definitely do not require critiquing.
Sometimes removing negative people from our lives is hard, simply because those people have become too commonplace. Negative people in our lives could be our friends, our family members, our peers, and maybe even our significant others. We have allowed them to make critiques on our lives, criticize our goals and aspirations, maybe without even realizing it. Negative people often have the mindset that if it is not aligned with their standards, it is not worth doing at all.
You may have noticed this when you have a conversation with them and they are the least bit supportive of all that you are doing in your life presently. After the conversation ends you often reflect back on all that you are doing and feel insecure about it, like the things you were doing needed to be defended. What does it matter for if you are not hurting anyone? There is nothing sadder than not living your passion. Negative people light a fire with the intent to burn everything you care about so you are just as miserable as they are. Do not stoop to their level. Your dreams, plans, goals, thoughts, are never unrealistic, nor do they demand an explanation.
A difference should be pointed out. There is a difference between those who are negative and suck the life out of your plans like lack of oxygen to a flame, and those who are merely urging you to be realistic. The difference is, someone who is urging you to be realistic will tell you: "hey I know you want to go on vacation this year, but I think it'll be too expensive, why don't we go next year?" A person who has a negative mentality will say, "you will never have enough money to afford a vacation this year, why don't you just forget it?" It is the way in which people word things that you should be weary of them.
If you notice that someone is doing this to you, cut them out of your life. Negativity not only leads to insecurity but feeling invalidated and foolish. You are never foolish for believing in yourself.
