20 Reasons To Keep Living

20 Reasons To Keep Living

Sometimes life gets hard, but here are twenty reasons, among thousands, to keep living.

Sometimes, life can become incredibly hard, pulling at the strings of your mind, attempting to unwind and knot them up. Sometimes, you look in the mirror for days, weeks, months on end, and every time you do, you picture yourself dead rather than alive. The tug at the back of your head telling you you are worthless, you are not important, you have nothing to live for, you have no reason to be alive...that voice speaks to you every day; sometimes it shouts, sometimes it whispers, but it is always there.

When the times get harder, when the voice comes back, when you're sobbing to yourself in late hours of the night, contemplating if you have the courage to end it all, keep in mind what is positive in your life and what is positive about you. After two suicides attempts myself, I have found the things I can hold onto when times become unbearable again, and I have found the things to pull me out of the toxic state of mind I drown myself in in those moments. Below, are twenty things, among hundreds, that are some reasons to keep living, even when the moment consumes you and all you'd rather do is die.

1. The calming scent after a storm, rolling down the windows in your car to breathe it in and let the crisp air cool you, or opening the windows in your home and letting it fill the space.

2. Taking a bite of an amazing meal, savoring the taste in your mouth, catching yourself smiling or closing your eyes as you take in all the flavors.

3. Seeing someone for the first time in a long time, and seeing the huge smile on their face as you each lock eyes, and the flush of warmth you feel when you realize how much you've missed them.

4. Waking up in the morning without an alarm, stretching out your muscles in bed, and realizing that you feel incredibly refreshed.

5. Cruising fast down backroads late at night, music blasting, all of your cares gone besides the thrill of the speed and bumps and still making sure you're careful enough to stay alive.

6. Being kissed or taken into a hug out of nowhere, your hair being brushed back, looking into someone else's eyes, feeling cared for and comforted and not wanting to let go of their body.

7. Hearing a new song that you immediately love so you turn it up full volume, and let the music flow in and out of you, changing you for a fleeting moment as the song plays.

8.Traveling to a new place that utterly mesmerizes you with its beauty and splendor, attempting to get lost in the place, trying to experience as much of it as you can.

9. Hearing kind words about you from strangers or people you know or care about, especially when it's out of the blue, particularly when it isn't about something physical: "You're so strong and inspirational," "You have the most entertaining and remarkable mind," "You motivate me to become better and do more with my life"

10. Stepping into a hot shower or bath or jacuzzi, feeling yourself melt with the water then feeling your body release itself to the heat, and how refreshing that moment feels.

11. Finishing an incredibly difficult task that you didn't think you'd be able to overcome or even begin, yet you've now accomplished it, and perhaps now you deserved a much-needed drink or personal reward, and that reward in itself feels great.

12. Having someone give you a massage, working through all your muscles, letting yourself release the strain and tension, and the immediate gasp you let out because it feels so good.

13. Walking past a row of candles or fragrances, etc. and feeling like a child because you have to smell all of the scents, so you stop what you're doing a do just that, feeling carefree and delighted.

14. Being surrounded by friends and/or family and suddenly everyone, including yourself, bursts out with laughter, and the only thing on everyone's mind is happiness, joy, and love.

15. Buying yourself something you've wanted for a long time, and feeling proud of yourself for waiting and saving for it because you realize it'll make you enjoy it even more and longer.

16. Being greeted by your pet(s), especially when you've been gone for a long time, and the only thing on their mind(s) is loving you and wanting to touch you, so you take a few moments to snuggle them because you realize just how much you've missed them too.

17. Being recognized for your hard work, whether it's by family or friends or coworkers or strangers, and being told so in front of others and is met with so much positivity that you begin to feel yourself blush because you're so happy.

18. Watching a sunrise, sunset, storm, etc. from a beautiful area of nature, taking in the entire moment, letting the grandness of nature take over your mind, and escaping into the wonder that is the world.

19. Putting on the perfect outfit, looking in the mirror, and feeling like a fine slice of cake, feeling confident enough to tackle the day, and maybe steal some hearts while you're at it.

20. Seeing the emotion on someone's face and/or body, when you make them happy, make them grateful, make them ecstatic, joyful, excited, surprised (in a good way), comforted, etc. because of something you did for them (so it makes you feel good inside too).

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Depression Is A Balancing Act That Is And Isn't In Our Control

Managing depression can sometimes feel overwhelming.


*Warning: Before reading any further is that this article will be talking about heavy topics such as depression and suicide.*

Depression in this day and age is a very sticky topic to talk about. Yes, we are becoming more aware and accepting of the issue, but we still have a long ways to go in terms of really know how we can be there for people in a way that's most effective and where they don't feel judged because of it.

I have dealt with depression most of my life and especially going through college. It didn't become a big thing for me till I came to college, and then having to navigate my issue of it. Whether that's talking about it friends vaguely about it, bottling it all in, going for professional help, etc. It's one of the many reasons why I'm afraid of meeting someone new, or wanting to be in a relationship, I was afraid of the judgment and feeling that if I told someone they either might not want to do anything with me, say it's too much for them, etc.

Now some of those fears, in my opinion, were unjustified in a sense that yes even though it is important for people to be there for me in my time of need, I need to be conscious of how much I share and whether they can take that piece of me I shared. It's a balancing act that is hard to manage, but it allows me for a much-needed look into myself of what actually makes me happy, what doesn't, what triggers my depression and going out of my way to make sure I don't let it take control of me.

The depression took me to places, very dark places that I'm happy to have push through, with my depression it made my thoughts go into suicidal ideation, and even hurting myself, an act that I never thought I would ever do but thankfully I had people in my life that helped me overcome that and going to talk to a professional.

Depression is a mental health issue that most everyone struggles with regardless of where they're at in life, it can come like a tidal wave, or not at all. It's an internal struggle with ourselves, and we do our best trying to get through it. I know that I'm not alone in this, and if you're reading this you're not alone either.

Don't be afraid to talk about it, but be mindful of other people and how much you can share in order for them to be able to process it, go for professional help, exercise, hang out with friends. Don't let depression fully control your life, it won't go away but if we can manage it in a way that helps us be able to keep it under control then that's a win.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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