20 Life Lessons I have Learned By age 20

20 Life Lessons I have Learned By age 20


I am finally turning 20. I thought that one way to celebrate would be to share 20 life lessons that I have learned so far.

1. The Only Constant Is Change

I learned this lesson through a very important person (Brandon Garland, hoping that you read this.) Change is going to happen, whether you like it or not. It is not something you can escape or avoid. So the best thing to do with the lemons life has given you is to make lemonade, meaning to accept the changes life throws at you. Sorry if you don't like lemons.

2. Always Consider The Advice Your Parents Give You

Don't ignore your parent/guardians advice. Consider what they say, especially when making an important decision.

3. Life Is Not Going To Wait For Anyone

Life is not going to follow your dreams for you. Go out and find opportunities for yourself.

4. Not Everyone Needs To Like You

If anyone hates you because of an aspect of your personality, don't waste your time trying to please them.

5. Learn How To Do Things On Your Own. Learn How To Spend Time By Yourself

You don't necessarily need other people there in order to be happy. Living your life through other people ultimately isn't pleasing. Having time to be alone can be good for you.

6. Do Not Let The World Suppress Any Characteristics That Make You Unique

When you are your authentic self, it is a great thing not only for you, but for others around you.

7. Don't Say No To Opportunities Just because They Are Outside Your Comfort Zone

If you continue to stay in a comfort zone, then you will never truly be living life.

8. Don't Compare Yourself To Other People

Comparing yourself to other people is not a good way to challenge your accomplishments. Furthering your accomplishments should be pushed furthered by your desires of wanting to see your dreams come to fruition.

9. Mistakes Are Sometimes Meant To Be Made

Although these mistakes help you learn life lessons. don't make a habit of making them.

10. Question Everything

Question what you believe and what you don't. Question whether or not you are doing the right thing with your life.

11. Don't Plan Out Your Whole Life

Although we all have objectives for what we want to do in our life, you should not plan every aspect of it. Things change, and so does your mindset. It isn't a bad thing to plan a couple years ahead, but it sounds really boring to have a plan for your whole life expectancy.

12. You Don't Have To Go Out Every Weekend To Have Fun

Staying in could, first of all, save you money, but it could also allow you to get closer to your friends if you have a night in with them.

13. Take Risks, Ignore People Who Tell You Not To

Don't jump off a cliff and expect to live, that's a risk you should probably not take, but changing your major to something you are very passionate about or changing jobs could really pay off for you.

14. Speak Out, Don't Live Your Life Inside Your Head

Have an opinion, be bold about what you think.

15. Try Not To Live Your Life Through Your Phone

I am not against sharing things on social media, but if you live every moment looking at your screen, then you are just wasting your time. Take time to live in the moment.

16. Your Past Is Just That

Don't dwell on the past. You cannot go back and change it, so why bother letting it torment you.

17. Don't Spend Time With People Who Don't Deserve Your Friendship

Don't keep trying to please people who treat you badly or ignore your attempts at friendship. There are other people out in the world who would appreciate you and would love to have you as a friend. Just as the saying goes in romance, there are plenty of fish in the sea. It doesn't have to mean romantic partner but also friendships.

18. Karma Indeed Is A Bitch

Reminder: everything you do has a consequence. Another reminder: be nice to people and don't make your bad day someone else's too.

19. Make Sure That YOU Are In Control Of YOUR Life

Letting someone else be in charge of the decisions you make just means they are in control. Make sure that you truly want to do something, and that you aren't choosing to do it simply because someone else wants you to. Remember it is your life to live, not other people's. In the end you are the one that will have to live with the outcome of those decisions, so even if they don't turn out well, you will always come backing having learned something from that experience.

20. Don't Expect For Every Aspect Of Your Life To Be Easy.

If anyone told you life is easy, they lied to you. Even if you were to take the safest path possible in life there would still be struggles. So don't worry if your life isn't all rainbows, and sunshine, just make the best of it until it clears back up.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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Why You Should Bring Your Close Friend As Your Formal Date

Before asking that cute girl to formal think about asking a friend


Every year since I was a junior in high school I have always looked forward to homecoming or prom. When I got to college I began to look forward to my fraternity formal. I was never concerned with what to wear or the expense of formal but rather who I was going to ask. It can be difficult to make a decision. If you ask anyone friends with me they will tell you how I am one of the most indecisive people out there. There are so many people I am friendly with or have a close relationship that it can feel difficult to make a decision. But let's look at that phrase again. You might think why does he want to bring someone who is his friend to his fraternity formal rather than someone he likes or is dating. To answer this question, some of the girls I have liked I have not been able to be the true me around and that also applies to the girls I have dated as well. I am different around my friends and I want someone to know the real me rather than me just having to pretend.

Maybe I am still experiencing the effects of a fun weekend but I have noticed that every formal or prom that I have brought a date with not only was a fun formal but interacted and connected well with my friends. That is the main thing I look for in a formal date, they need to be liked by my friends and many of them are still pretty friendly after the formal. You are spending the weekend with them and the drive down for you formal. There will be a lot of time spent with your date so it is important to bring someone you know you will have fun with. I am not saying that there isn't anything wrong with bringing someone else but I always found it best to bring a friend if you are not dating someone.

Think about the people you know you will always have fun with. This can be an indication of who you should bring and why but you should also think about the positives in this situation. Your fun and the time spent with the people should be prioritized before anything else. This event is about you and you should have someone with you that you know is fun to be around and someone you can enjoy yourself around along with your friends. Friends know you as well as you know yourself so there is not an idea of having to pretend to be someone else. The good thing about friends is that you do not run out of things to talk about and there is always something new to learn. Take your formal as a trip that you get to experience with the people closest to you. That is my take.

The key for me is to know that I will have fun with my date at formal. The drive to formal can be long and you are sharing a hotel room with your date along with spending time with them during the trip. I talk a lot. I want someone I know who I can carry a conversation with and will not just respond with words such as Yeah or Sounds good. I have always been able to remember not only my formals but specific parts of it as well. I think this is possible because of who I have brought and the memories I made with them.

Formals are important to everyone so think about who you want to spend that moment with. There is nothing wrong with bringing someone who you like but there also is nothing wrong with bringing a friend. Some people might bring someone they are dating but you should not have to compare yourself to other people. Do what makes you happy but remember this weekend is about you and you deserve to bring someone you will have fun with.

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