19 Things I learned between 18 and 19

19 Things I learned between 18 and 19

What a year it has been

By the time this is published I will have already made the big leap from 18 to 19 (which is weird because I instinctually still tell people I’m 17). I can say without a doubt this has been the single most formative year of my life, in both the degree of I’ve changed and how those changes have come about. I’ve had a lot of fun, but I’ve also learned a lot of lessons about the greater world, my immediate world, and about myself. I hope each and every single pieces of wisdom here can help you. Also disclaimer, I’m not saying these are all necessarily true, but rather that I’ve found these observations to be true.

1.I love oatmeal

Pretty simple one to start off with. It’s healthy, tastes great, easy to make, and a fantastic way to start your day.

2. Making money and living your dream aren't mutually exclusive

I think there is a common held belief that you can either love your job or make a lot of money, and from observing other people, I now know this isn’t the case. Sure, work is work, but you can enjoy it.

3.You can't help everyone

Change is hard. Just because you’ve changed and something worked for you, doesn’t mean it will work for someone else.

4.Some people aren't worth it

Some people rise will never fail you, but some will let you down time after time. The latter kind of person is often not worth having play a major role in your life.

5.You can learn to love what you hate

Not advocating for living some miserable existence here, but it’s true. Whether it’s a certain food or task, my past notions are just as often proven wrong as they are right, and only time can change opinions.

6.Parents are people

This has been a big year for how I see my parents. It’s easy to de-humanize people who are older than you/who you see every day, whether that be a teacher, a coach, or a parent. However, they are people to, with hopes and dreams and emotions and justifications, and it is important to realize that.

7.I've had world class parents

I always knew I had good parents, but it wasn’t till I heard about other peoples’ parents at college that I realized my parents really are a cut above the rest.

8. College isn't one big party

Despite what Hollywood would tell you, it’s really not. There are ups and downs, homework and quizzes, quiet nights and wild nights, kind of a mixed bag.

9.Going to bed early is kind of awesome

Wild nights are great, but waking up with 10 hours of sleep and not having shot the day sleeping in is also amazing.

10.Your world can change in an instant

This can be positive or negative. Whether it is drinking a certain sports drink that hospitalizes you, or moving into a dorm room, your whole world can change like that.

11. Your self image can, and will, change all the time and that's ok

Still trying to grasp this one, but I think how we see ourselves is one of the most interesting topics in the world, and the image we have of ourselves can change depending on a million factors, both physical and non physical factors.

12.Small parties are better than big ones

Like I’ve said, there are quiet nights and wild ones, but contrary to popular belief, a party of 8 where you know everyone is far better than a party of 400, personal experience confirms it.

13. Just cause someone cares about you doesn't mean you have to take their advice

Having people in your life who care about you is a blessing. This being said, it’s your life, so take their advice into account, but make your own decisions.

14. Starting a paper 3 weeks ahead and 5 days ahead will result in different grades, no matter how good you are at the class

Learned this one on my most recent Political Science midterm, starting ahead and breaking the work up makes for a much better finished product, no matter your cramming skills.

15.“I was drunk” is never a legitimate excuse

I’ve used it, you’ve used it, and we’ve all used it. Anytime I’ve said it, or heard someone say it, I know that being drunk doesn’t matter. Intoxicated or not, you have to answer for your actions.

16.Sometime people are better than you remember them, sometimes they're not

Distance changes everything. I’ve gone home from break and liked people a lot more than when I left, but sometimes the opposite does occur. People change, accept it.

17.People are a product of their parents

I can track the vast majority of qualities I have to qualities held by my parents, and can do so with some other people as well. Think of it as a context for peoples lives.

18.The only way to get out of a bad situation is to work out of it

Hard work pays off, no matter the situation.

19. It's ok to miss home

I really do like college, but that doesn’t mean I don’t miss home and that’s ok.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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The Top 3 Lifestyle Changes I Made In College

The mistakes I corrected which stood between me and satisfaction.


2019 has been a year of unparalleled growth for me. In 2018 I could have said the same. I spent extended periods of time analyzing the factors of my life which left me, in some ways, feeling unfulfilled. Here are the top 3 lifestyle changes that I made in college which left me feeling happier than ever.

1. Cut out the toxic people. 

A house is worthless without a solid foundation. The people which you call your friends are largely the foundation for your confidence and social life. Sometimes, we recognize that these people are overall anchors on our psyche; condescending narcissists whose confidence rests on making others feel inadequate. The first step to building self-confidence is to get these people out of your life immediately. Once you solidify this foundation, you will soon realize how pitiful these people are, and growth you had been capable of without them.

2. Do you even lift?

Not only has my physical condition improved from going to the gym, so has my mental strength. As my physical form has improved, my confidence has risen. We have spent millions of years evolving to physically exert ourselves. Our modern lifestyle has left many of us without this crucial key to endorphins and proper brain chemistry; a factor which has promoted never before seen rates of depression and anxiety. Lifting weights have left me feeling better than I can remember, with endorphins and testosterone at an all-time high.

For years, I either avoided the gym or found excuses to stop. The reason I never committed to fitness was largely a lack of interest in self-betterment, but also a feeling of cluelessness in the subject. I recommend utilizing the "Beginner's Health and Fitness Guide" linked here. This guide breaks down fitness in an incredibly easy to understand way. This information is not published by someone trying to sell you something. It was written by input from numerous online fitness enthusiasts and refined for accuracy as well as simplicity. This guide has helped me and many others in online communities start down the road to improved physical and mental health through fitness.

3. Do as much as possible, even when you don't feel like it. 

I squandered years of my short life secluding myself to a comfort bubble. While in college, I have realized that happiness largely rests on occupying yourself with new and real experiences as frequently as possible. Time which would have previously been wasted on my phone, the television, or playing online games was shifted to trying new things. As often as possible, I have pushed myself to undertake activities such as learning to snowboard, grabbing food with people from college whom I had just met, going hiking with strangers and our mutual friend, traveling solo, etc. Pushing myself further from my comfort bubble every day has been exceptionally conducive to not only living life to a greater degree but also decreasing the anxieties which we all experience.

What can you fix in your current life to build the lifestyle you dream of?

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