15 White Lies Women Tell Men And What They Really Mean

15 White Lies Women Tell Men And What They Really Mean

"The sex was great." Yeah, right.
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I should preface this by saying not all of these are true. Sometimes, when women say something, we actually do mean it. I, personally, normally mean exactly what I'm saying. However, there are some times when you know the truth would hurt just a *teensy* bit more than a lie, and a white lie is the kind-hearted way of trying to help someone you care about preserve his dignity. These are just some of the little white lies I know women have told men when they're afraid to crush his delicate ego.


That being said, if any of these upset you (men), it's probably because you know deep down they might be true. Try not to get your feelings hurt. After all, we're only trying to make you feel good. In all honesty, I'm sure you've used them on women as well. Ladies, while I always advocate honesty is the best policy, even I know sometimes that's not an option. Try to use these sparingly, but at least they're here to fall back on if you need them.

1. "We'll hang out soon."

We're likely never going to actually hang out. I'll use this line as long as it works, until they give up and stop bugging me about it, or confront me... at which point I'll throw out, "Yeah. I'm not interested. Sorry." Hint: I'm not sorry.

2. "The sex was great."

It was mediocre at best but I don't want to hurt your feelings. It's not that it was bad. I've just had better. And then I'm not going to sleep with you again, and go find someone who has a better handle on their *ahem* equipment.

3. "I'm not ready for a relationship."

With you. I'd probably be ready if it were anybody I actually wanted. Or, you know, Dean Winchester/Leonardo DiCaprio/Tim Riggins/Lip Gallagher/Chuck Bass/Literally Anyone Else.

4. "Yeah, your d*ck is big."

I've had bigger, but I'm not going to tell you you're average. No one wants to be shamed for their body, nor should they be. So I'm going to let you have this small victory, and someone will probably tell you the truth eventually. Just not me.

5. "I don't talk to anyone else."

I'm talking to at least three other dudes, because I know you're talking to at least five other girls. It's not personal. It's practical. You're likely never going to date me, and I'm okay with that, but I'm not going to cut off other potential options so that you can feel like the only important man in my life. Truthfully, you're probably not that important at all.

6. "I want to take it slow."

I don't want to be a "whore," or "easy," but I want to have sex. But then you'll think I'm a whore, so I'll hold out for as long as I can, even though I wish I could rip your clothes off without you judging me or telling your little friends what a slut I am.

7. "Sorry, I fell asleep."

I was scrolling through Facebook or Twitter and ignoring you because I didn't feel like replying. This conversation is boring me. I don't feel like talking to you anymore.

8. "I can't, I have plans."

I'm going to lay in bed and watch Netflix. I'd rather do that than have you pretend we're going to watch Netflix while you try to stick your hand down my pants. Hint: I'm not sorry.

9. "My parents/roommates are home."

They might be. They might not be. I might just be too comfortable in bed, haven't shaved in a while, or don't feel very sexy. Trust me, if a girl wants you, she won't care that her parents or roommates are home.

10. "Of course I like you."

Eh, you're all right. Your conversations pass the time, but don't think I'm in love with you or anything.

11. "I'm not that kind of girl."

We're all that kind of girl with the right guy. Even if there's a year or two in between partners, sometimes you slip and your inner nympho comes out of hiding and makes an appearance.

12. "You look good."

You probably look like shit. OK not really, but it's possible this is said sarcastically as much as it is said truthfully. You might really look good...and if you're sick or something, you probably look less than good. Maybe you really do look like you've been working out, or that haircut is really cute...and maybe you just look like too much of a tool for us to risk being truthful.

13. "I'm working that day."

I don't work 24 hours a day. I just don't want to wake up early for you (gag), or get out of work and pull myself together for you, when I could (much more) easily just go home, crack a beer, and take off my pants.

14. "That's cool/awesome/fun (and any variation thereof)."

It's probably none of those things. I probably don't actually care about whatever dumb thing you just told me.

15. "I have my period."

This is a good, old-fashioned, rainy-day, back-pocket excuse that literally never gets old. So valuable, it's white lie gold. What you don't know what hurt you, and what terrifies you, makes me infinitely happier.

Again, I'm not one to lie. I will tell you straight up if I'm uninterested, if I think you're a giant jack*ss, or if this isn't going to work. However, I use these white lies when I genuinely don't want to be mean. Besides, if I told you the truth in these situations, I'd automatically become "such a b*tch." Guys, if you've got a lady in your life using these lines, just ask. She'll (probably) tell you the truth. And for every guy I just alienated with this article:


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An Attendee's Review Of Passion's New "Whole Heart" Album

Digitally-released today, and powerful in the conference or the quiet.
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So, I had the opportunity to attend Passion 2018 earlier this year, and it was pretty incredible, especially the worship music. A lot of it is new, and the friend who invited me told me how on the first day, you're actually kind of learning the new songs. By the end of the conference, however, these become songs you've started to get to know.

I say "started," because, with worship songs, I feel like they're like those Everlasting Gobstoppers you used to eat as a kid. As you go along, more begins to stand out to you the more you listen.

God speaks to you through one part of the song while you're at the conference, but you really let the words marinate, you listen to them again, and God speaks to you in different ways as you pass through different phases of life. You can remember the ways God spoke to you when you worshiped Him at the conference, and sometimes you hear different parts as you worship in the quiet places of your own life.

I also got an opportunity to listen to the album a little early and write a review, and I absolutely love it. Needless to say, some of you may have been counting down since the conference, but the day has arrived-- the "Whole Heart" album is finally available! It was released today, and features the following 11 songs:

1. Whole Heart (feat. Kristian Stanfill) (lyrics + chords)

2. Almighty God (feat. Sean Curran) (lyrics + chords)

3. God, You're So Good (feat. Kristian Stanfill) (lyrics + chords)

4. Reckless Love (feat. Melodie Malone) (lyrics + chords)

5. Heaven (feat. Sean Curran) (lyrics)

6. More Like Jesus (feat. Kristian Stanfill) (lyrics)

7. Hallelujah, Our God Reigns (feat. Brett Younker) (lyrics)

8. Ghost (feat. Crowder)

9. Ever Almighty (feat. Melodie Malone) (lyrics)

10. Great Are You Lord (feat. Matt Redman) (lyrics)

11. All My Hope (feat. Crowder & Tauren Wells) (lyrics)

The theme surrounding the album is, as Kristian Stanfill from Passion put it "a deeper devotion and discipleship to Jesus." It features the Passion Band (also including Brett Younker, Melodie Malone, and Sean Curran) and some of the conference's guest artists (Crowder, Matt Redman, Tauren Wells), and the songs are live - so in the background, there are over 30,000 students worshiping alongside the artists.

I really like looking along at the lyrics of songs, and since I was able to find all of them online except for "Ghost", I sat down and really listened to its words-- and I think it might be my new favorite right now. At the conference, it was "Whole Heart," but the powerfulness of the words in "Ghost" is really resonating with me at present.

A lot of my friends that attended the conference with me loved "God, You're So Good," and really, all of them are great. These are songs I'm going to end up singing throughout the day, and not even minding when they get stuck in my head.

So whether you buy this album to listen to the songs again, or to hear them for the first time, it's a great way to bring the worship from Passion into your house, your car, your friend group, wherever. Passion was amazing, and it's cool to be able to kind of "relive" that experience through the music.

However, our God is far from stagnant; he continues to work and move in our lives even as we disperse from the experience of the conference. Isaiah 43:19 says, "Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?" These songs remind me incredibly great our God is, and how he truly deserves my whole heart in worship.

(P.S. Snatch your own digital copy, available through iTunes, Google Play, Amazon Music and more, here through the Passion Music site!)


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2018 Black Panther Review

A Movie Far Beyond It's Time
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Author's Note: I saw Black Panther the day the movie came out and I wanted to share my thought on what I thought. There will be spoilers so please read accordingly. Please let me know what you think and enjoy!

My thoughts before I saw the movie:

Now as someone who grew up with three brothers and who's dad sells comic books as a hobby I have certainly read my fair share of comics. The amount of single issue comics and graphic novels I own is quite overwhelming. Despite that I have read very little of the Black Panther comics and went into the movie with a neutral but upbeat attitude. I decided to see the movie on a whim because everyone was talking about how great the film was. And let me tell you they were right!

The Cast and Characters:

Before seeing this movie I had never seen a single one of the cast members in anything else except Martin Freeman and Michael B Jordan. But my golly I will never forget any of them! The energy and emotion each of them put into this film is beyond incredible. Every single one of them is not only unique in design and character but believable! They each have their own struggles and goals but overcome and achieve them together! But by far my favorite character was Shuri. She is T'challa's sister but by no means is she forgettable. A lot of people have discussed the incredible femininity and female representation in this film and while there are many wonderful other female characters in this film she's my favorite. She is young and doesn't like her cultures traditions but is an absolutely genius. She does everything from invent her brothers suit to help stabilize the vibranium in Wakanda's mine. I love her spirit and willingness to fight when necessary.

The Villain:

The saying goes that no good movie is complete without a sympathetic villain and Black Panther is no exception. Michael B Jordan plays Erik Killmonger who happens to be T'challa's unknown cousin. Erik has grown up outside of Wakanda and therefore knows the harsh realities of growing up as a African American. He wants to become king of Wakanda so he can show the world who's really in control. I honestly felt so hard for him as a character. He grew up with nothing while T'challa had everything. Erik's views and life are sad relatable to many people today. What made it even worse is that he is only a villain due to circumstance. His problems are real and his cause is truly one worth fighting for. All he wants is the equality of his people. The only reason he becomes a villain is that he has no other choice. He figures out that he has to do what he has done his entire life, fight for what he wants. Bottom line he is a amazing character and if you don't care for him by the end of the movie I will be shocked.

The Plot:

The main story line of the film is T'challa's struggle on whether or not to share Wakanda's knowledge and power with the rest of the world. His father kept their home secrets for years but because of that the rest of their culture has gone without and has barely survived. What I love about the movie is how they make this so relevant to today. They discuss immigration, culture, and racism. All very hot topics and deep issues of today. Yet while this film dives deep into each of these issues it does so with class and decorum, while not shying away from the truth. I honestly wish we had more films that go beyond just a movie like Black Panther did.

Final Thoughts:

After seeing this I can honestly say this is by far my favorite Marvel Movie. With all of it's incredible talent and raw passion the film hits you just where it needs to. I can never forsee Marvel topping this, not even with Inifity Wars but I can't wait to see them try!

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