It is hard to accept the fact that some people just aren’t who they say they are. No matter if you are sisters, brothers, or BFFL’s, if they do any of these things, you may need to rethink your relationship with this person. I hate to break it to you, but if they do any of these things they cannot be trusted.
Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.
What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.
I've heard it all:
"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"
"You didn't even give him a chance!"
"You pay too much attention to the little things!"
What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.
However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.
So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?
Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...
1. Wants to know my friends.
Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.
I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.
Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.
2. Actually, cares to get to know me.
Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.
This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.
3. How they talk about other women.
It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.
If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"
Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.
Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.
4. Phone etiquette.
If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.
If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.
He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.
To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.
Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.
Have you ever had a more stereotypical freshman's Saturday than my friends Maddie, Lauren, Jocelyn, Meg, Barbara, and I? Keep reading to see a packed day in darty season from a freshman's point of view.
My alarm that I meant to set for the day before goes off. I begrudgingly roll over, and turn it off, falling back asleep.
I finally wake up, roll, or jump, out of my lofted bed, grab my laptop, and do a little studying for my exam on Monday -- there's no time for that later today, so I've gotta get some of it done then.
Shower. Pick an outfit. Brush teeth. Makeup. Pack a bag of extra clothes.
I walked downstairs to the lobby to meet two of my friends who were gonna walk with me to Tutweiler Hall.
My friends and I at the fundraising event
We arrived at Tut, met our friends, then left to go to a philantropy event at Sig Tau sponsored by B+, an organization that assists the families of children diagnosed with cancer. Their burgers and fries were top notch.
The Hackberrys, a band comprised of UA students, played the event. We left to go back to Tut after a few songs.
We finally got back at Tut, changed clothes, listened to music, hung out.
We *finally* left for Pike (sorry mom!). You know how long it takes five girls to get ready, so don't act so shocked.
Myself, super escstatic about having to wait in a mob of people to get in
Have you ever arrived to a frat when it's at capacity? Yeah, around 100 screaming girls were shoving to get into the darty. It was an experience like no other, but eventually, we made our way in. It may have been in groups of two, and we definitely lost a girl to the crowd (she's fine!), but we made it.
After dancing on an elevated surface or two, walking in circles around their courtyard, watching an active climb into a basketball goal, and waiting in a way-too-long line for the restroom, we decided to go back to Tut.
We definitely made a stop to grab a snack or two on our way back to Tut.
After realizing that none of the parties at night were gonna start until around 10 pm, we decided to watch some random YouTube videos and Netflix to pass the time. There was also another stop for snacks at the infamous Julia's on the first floor of Tut.
My third outfit change of the day. We decided to leave Tut for frat row for the third time that day, too. I wanna say my total steps for the day was around 17,000? It was a lot.
Best view in the house (Myself on the left, Maddie on the right)
We got to Sigma Pi as the party was just starting to build up. Their band room was filled within the hour, and they had a pretty good DJ. Although the active yelling at me and my friend to get off the stage was no fun.
Have you ever faked out a frat boy with a soccer ball? Well, now I can say I have.
After someone pulled the fire alarm on Sigma Pi, we decided to walk back to Tut.
My two Ragecrest friends and I decided to take the bus back because, after the stretch to and from frat row three times, we had no more walking left in us.
Canes chicken tenders. Enough said. It's the way to end a night.
It was a very packed, but very fun and eventful day. We pretty much hit all the spring semester stereotypes: walking along and to frat row, going to a darty, going to a frat party, going to a philanthropy event, and more. As crazy as the day was, I highly recommend trying a day like this once because you won't forget it!