All of us are guilty of judging a book by its cover but this can honestly be the biggest mistake you will ever make. Everyone jumps to conclusions every now and then based on looks, but more often than not looks are deceiving. I know many girls who suffer from resting b**** face and are some of the sweetest more genuine girls I know. At the end of the day, you will never know what someone is like on the inside simply by looking at the outside. Here are a few qualities we should all value more than looks.
1. A sense of humor and infectious smile
There is nothing more attractive than someone with a sense of humor who can make you laugh every day. When you are having a stressful day or just need a break from all of the serious issues in life it is nice to take a moment to just laugh from your belly until you cry. Someone who knows how to make you laugh and smile deserves your heart and more.
2. A Caring Heart
Anyone who is truly caring, selfless and giving will always go to the ends of the earth to make you happy. Very few people these days have a caring heart so if you find it hold onto it. If you put your heart into everything you are genuinely care about, you are 100 times more valuable than a person who is beautiful on the outside. Exterior beauty can and will always fade but a caring heart will last a lifetime.
3. Self Confidence
There is a huge difference between being arrogant and self-confident. In any relationship with yourself or a partner, friendship and even in the workplace, a positive view of yourself will give other people confidence in you as well. Be passionate and have faith in yourself. You are better, stronger and smarter than you think you are; once you allow yourself to think you are amazing, is the moment you can truly shine and show the rest of the world what you are capable of.
4. Tolerance and Acceptance
There is nothing sexier than a person who accepts everyone for who they are and sees beauty in all shapes, sizes, colors, backgrounds and orientation. Tolerance and acceptance are important traits to look for in a person. Anyone who has hate in their heart for people they have never met does not deserve your time.
5. Weirdness
Everyone should feel comfortable being weird and letting loose every once and a while. We are expected to act in a socially acceptable manner too often so it is nice to be able to let your freak flag fly every now and then. If someone can’t handle your weird then you don’t need to handle their normalness.
6. High Aspirations
People who shoot for the stars and try to reach the highest achievements possible are great people to be around. They inspire you to reach for your dreams and always believe in you. They will push you to be your best and will be a huge support in your life.
7. Intellect
In this day and age many people value education less and less. It is very attractive if you can sit down and have an intellectual conversation about the upcoming debate, a book or current events occurring around the world. No matter what interests you, it is always refreshing to have a conversation of substance and challenge one another on an intellectual level.
8. Feminism
No matter what sex, orientation or background we are all feminists. What is truly attractive is someone who takes pride in their feminist values and is not afraid to proclaim them to the world. None of us would be here today without women and it is time everyone, no matter what background we come from or what sex we are has fair rights, respect and pay. Many people perceive “feminism” as being hateful towards men but in reality it is anyone who wants equal rights for women. It is extremely attractive when people stand up for the oppressed and support people who have been less valued than others.
9. Honesty
There is something to be said about a person who tells the truth and demands the truth from others. It is never helpful when people sweep things under the rug or sugar coat things and beat around the bush to make you “happy." Nothing good comes from dishonesty and it is attractive to find someone who upholds it as a value and cherishes it in return. Honesty and, therefore, trust are vital pillars in every relationship and is something we all hope to find in another.
10. Manners
Some say chivalry is dead but I think that is just an excuse for the increasing number of people with poor manners these days. Small things like holding the door open, taking their coat, making reservations, walking beside them instead of in from of them all make a difference every day. These things may seem small but you don’t need to send someone a dozen red roses to make it clear that your feelings are genuine. It is also simply good manners to put in the extra effort because you would want people to do the same for you. People who put down their cell phone and give you their undivided attention and actively participate in the conversation and care about what you have to say matters much more than a handsome person who never listens or opens the door.
11. Effort
This may sound like common sense but many people get comfortable in their relationship or friendship and stop putting in the effort. Keep going on dates; keep doing favors for each other expecting nothing in return, keep surprising them and keep them on their toes. It is so important to show the people you love how much you care and never let the flame die out. Even with your own family, it is important to tell them you love them and put the effort in.
12. Wanderlust
Being grounded is an attractive quality in itself but the desire to travel is an attractive quality that will appeal to all different kinds of people. We are only given so much time on this earth so why not try to explore as much of it as possible? Traveling is always more fun when you aren’t doing it alone so wanderlust is a very attractive quality that will last forever. Adventure is out there, so go get it and wander the unknown paths with someone who loves to wander with you.
13. Appreciation of music
It is always attractive when someone likes the same music as you do, but it is equally attractive to find someone who has a passion and understanding for music even if their taste differs from yours. Being a musician, it is great to find someone who knows what true music is and appreciates the talent that has to go into creating one of the most powerful forms of art on this planet.
14. Positivity
People who have true beauty inside and out know how to find the silver lining in the bleakest of situations. Someone who has a rosy outlook, while remaining realistic is a great person to be around. Whenever things are looking bad and you are feeling down they will bring you right back up by showing you what there is to be happy about. Positivity is infectious and a quality all people should work to maintain. It should be a goal to wake up happy every morning (why not it’s a new day?) and aim to stay happy the rest of the day. When you are happy, usually other people are happier because it is human nature to spread positivity and joy. Being optimistic and hoping for the best is the best way to live life. Pessimists argue that they assume the worst is to come so they are not let down, however putting positive energy out in the world is more likely to have more positivity stem from it.
15. Talent
Whether it is being able to cook, paint, sing or whatever your passion is attractive when you can share it with the people you love.
Many people have asked: If all the world could see is your personality, would you still be beautiful? Sure we all care what we look like on the surface level to some extent but the true attractive qualities lie within.
