11 Things You’ll Understand If You Have A Big Family

11 Things You’ll Understand If You Have A Big Family

My family is the greatest.

With six people in my family, there is always something going on. There is literally never a dull moment — when I say never, I mean never! When I was growing up, there was always someone to play with and if one of my brothers made me mad I always had my sister and my other brother to hang out with. Four kids sounds like a lot to some people, but I can’t imagine it any other way.

1. Someone will always eat your favorite cereal and not leave you any milk

My brother eats it right out of the box for every snack and he snacks a lot, so I'll be lucky to even get a bowl.

2. You’re never bored

Whether someone is joking around with you or little brother wants to ride bikes, there’s never a “mom I’m so bored!!!” Every day is a play date. If you were in my family, there were enough kids to start your own band. (Shout out to TX4!)

3. When you were younger, hide and go seek was the go to game

Our babysitters probably hated us because we could all play for hours, well until someone got scared because my sister Gracie jumped out of her hiding stop.

4. You fight over who’s the favorite

The youngest is always called the baby and they get everything they want, but we all know the oldest is always the favorite.

5. Your siblings will try to get in on your gift-giving

It’s Christmas, Carson and I spent all our money on dumb sh*t so we try to just put our names on Gracie’s gift to mom.

6. There’s always a fight about chores

Your brothers never clean the bathroom and you ALWAYS have to do the laundry.

7. You learn to share (sort of)

My sister and I had many fights when I was in high school because I would steal her clothes. I miss her closet as much as I miss her sometimes.

8. When your mom goes grocery shopping she comes home with a carload

Refer to number one because I whined to mom and told her Wyatt ate all my Mini Wheats. My parents' literally meal prep to pack school lunches and I’m never surprised if there are two carts at the grocery store. When I was a kid my dad would take all of us to CiCi’s for all you can eat pizza when my mom was gone.

10. Car rides and road trips are eventful

Someone is always complaining because they don’t have enough leg room or someone's arm is touching them and it’s usually me.

11. Your mom does laundry every day

Whether it’s baseball pants or because I wear two outfits a day, the laundry basket is always full.

It feels weird to be living away from my family now that I’m in college. I get sad when I think about all the exciting things I’m missing and it’s weird to think that my youngest brother is only 12 and he still has so much to go through. I miss the family dinners, I miss us all joking around and picking on my dad. I even miss the fights sometimes because we disagree like all families do, but there was never a night where I went to bed without telling everyone I loved them after an argument. I love you, Ocock freakin’ squad.

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A Thank You To My Boyfriend's Family

Because you are so important to him, you are important to me.

This one isn't easy to sit down and write because nothing I could say would do all of you justice in the way that I would hope I could. These are just words, but I hope that I am able to always show my thank you to you by treating him like the prince he is.

I can replay the moment of meeting each and every one of you all over and over in my head like it was yesterday. I was so extremely nervous every single time and I was trying to gather all the "right" things to say that would leave a good, first-lasting impression and that at the end of the day, you all would like me.

I think one of the most important basis and hopes in my relationship is that my significant other's family likes who I am. This is so important to me because whatever is important to him is equally important to me and your thoughts of me are crucial to our relationship.

The second I walked in the door, I was overwhelmed—overwhelmed with such a love. I had no idea at that point in time just how much you would all mean to me and how thankful I am for all of you!

Thank you for constantly making me laugh and feel at home.

Whenever I'm coming over for a family gathering or just to hang out, I know right off that I am walking into a world of laughter and good times are right beside that. You are all so entertaining and always have a good story to tell me. I can't name one time where I didn't feel like I was home.

And I appreciate the sweet, embarrassing photos and stories about my boyfriend that you all share with me! Even if it is by a photo, I have a glimpse of what his life has always been like thanks to each and every one of you individually.

Thank you for sharing your special moments in life with me.

You don't ever have to, but you invite me anyway. Whether it's just a family gathering, a birthday, or a holiday, I am thankful to have spent those times celebrating these moments in life alongside such amazing people. It's humbling and heartwarming to be a part of memories so unforgettable that you all share and that you have welcomed me to be a part of. They are days that I will never forget and have a place in my heart forever.

Thank you for always being there for him.

Since we have started dating, I have watched the way that you guys love him. I have watched the individual relationships and moments that you share with him make a difference in who he is. I have seen you all love and support him, no matter what he was doing.

With everything that comes along in life, this has been a simple reminder of an unconditional, loving, sacrificing family that is also the best support system. You are not only impacting him, but me, too.

Thank you for welcoming me in like your own.

Whenever you have to brave up and meet your significant other's family, I can say, for myself, that I didn't know what to expect. As I'm sure, none of you did when meeting me. Today, I catch myself wondering why I even worried in the first place. You all have welcomed me in your own ways and made me feel right at home. It is not always easy to do that with just anyone, but you have all taken the time to get to know me. And now I know that if I ever needed anything, I can call one of you.

Thank you for letting me date him.

I am most thankful for this. Thank you for sharing him with me and giving me a chance to show you all how important he is to me. I never thought that I would luck out and meet someone as special, kind, and wonderful as he is, but I did.

You have supported our relationship, given me a chance to love him, and welcomed me to new adventures in love and family. I have the upmost gratitude for each of you. You are the most wonderful, welcoming, and loving family. I am overjoyed to be able to experience just a glimpse of this life with him and with all of you.

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You Should Love Hard, But You Shouldn't Drive Yourself Crazy

Love can drive us nuts and make us do things out of character.


Relationships are never easy. There is always this misconception that couples that are "meant to be" or friends who vibe well never struggle or fight.

The term "compatibility" is subjective, and it can take on many definitions based on different perspectives. Even the most compatible pair has their fair share of rough times, too, when they just feel like eliminating the other party's existence.

That may be exaggerative, but it's true. Been there, done that.

Sometimes, love is not enough to make a relationship work. Other fundamental elements like trust, mutual respect and commitment are necessary too.

They are the most precarious characteristics in this world. Once broken or lost, it will be an uphill battle trying to rebuild them again.

Most of the time, it will be a waste of time. It is extremely difficult to convince yourself to get involved with him/her again. You just want minimal or zero contact. I mean, trying to trust someone who broke your heart is always going to be tough no matter how much you still love them.

Starting over is way easier said than done.

As cliché as it may sound, love is a double-edged sword. On one end, you can have all the happiness and feel like you're on top of the world. On the other end, your feelings might not be reciprocated (and then come all the negative and crappy emotions).

What's certain is that if you are going to be emotionally stingy, be prepared to receive the same behavior from your potential partner. In any relationship, the unwillingness to share emotions is a form of emotional torture to both parties.

People who tend to be emotionally generous and show affections to their partners easily have a harder time when the relationship ends. Why is this so?

When you are loving without caution, you expose all your vulnerabilities to him/her. You're allowing him/her to have access to your inner world. You're loving hard, which undeniably should be the best way to love anyone.

But it got to the extent where you're almost driving yourself insane. You're so used to facing disappointment, and your heart has been shattered so many times you already lost count. You stayed despite knowing that he/she, on the other hand, would never go that far for you. You knew how calculative he/she was with giving love. You fought against yourself.

Was this really worth it?

You're pushing yourself into a corner for someone who just can't be bothered. You're constantly seeking him/her for closure. At times, you're just turned away.

This lack of clarity about why the relationship ended incurs greater pain and distress.

Loving hard is how love should be. I don't deny that. However, we still have to have control over our emotions.

You have already given your all. You have done more than enough to prove your love for him/her. What you should understand is that a person who left you in emotional despair would not be there for you, even if you both managed to reconcile.

Continue to wear your heart on your sleeve, but take accountability of your emotions. Love can drive us nuts and make us do things out of character.

If someone truly loves you and cares, he/she will never make you feel desperate or crazy. You will never have to beg for the closure that should be already given. Always bear this in mind.

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