11 Things I Learned From My Sister

11 Things I Learned From My Sister

Rules she creates for me don't actually apply to her.

1. Her clothes are my clothes, but my clothes are definitely her clothes.

My sister and I are pretty open to sharing clothes with each other. However, she borrows my shirts a lot more than I borrow hers. She sometimes wore my clothes to school without asking and then folded them back and put them exactly in the middle of the stack where she found them, so I wouldn’t know. I ended up catching her in the act one day when I stayed home sick without her knowledge.

2. Her allegiance totally depends on whether she can benefit from it.

Whenever my mom and I disagree about something, my sister only takes my side when she knows it would work towards her advantage. For example, I once got in trouble for eating in the bedroom when house rules strictly say not to. My sister passionately defended me since she, too, loves to eat in the bedroom late at night.

3. Her criticism is sometimes constructive.

My sister loves to call me out when I screw up, but she doesn’t always do it in a positive way. Her way of reproach is unique, and though I know she speaks from a place of love, I can’t always tell.

4. Even though she started it, I have to say sorry first.

My sister and I are extremely petty when it comes to fighting each other. Since she’s older than me, I am always the one apologizing first despite her being the one who instigated the fight. For her to say sorry first would be a direct insult to her honor.

5. Rules she makes for me don't apply to her.

My sister loves to make rules for me, “Don’t do this, it isn’t good for you,” or, “Oh, I don’t think you are supposed to do that.” But for some reason, those things don’t mean anything when she has to do it. Every objection seems to go away when she is in my position, and then it all becomes, “Well, just because I can do it, doesn’t mean you can too.”

6. It is OUR dresser but there's mostly her stuff on it.

My sister and I shared a room before she left for college. Even though we originally planned on splitting our dresser fifty/fifty, it was soon filled with her make-up and perfumes and my things got pushed into one tiny corner.

7. I am the designated person for her to experiment makeup and hair on.

My sister loves to watch YouTube tutorials on different hairstyles and makeup techniques. She then obviously needs to try her newly acquired skills on someone and that someone is always me. I can’t complain about that one though because I don’t mind being pampered by her like that.

8. We have sister telepathy.

My sister and I have the amazing capability of just looking at each other, thinking about the same thing, and then just laughing like crazy. We also have pretty dope conversations by just staring at each other for different amounts of time. Though we probably look crazy to others, it’s quite fun being able to do that.

9. She is a decent listener.

She may not always have the best advice, but I appreciate having someone to vent to all the time. I call to tell her one thing and then somehow that conversation ends up lasting over two hours.

10. She is actually soft on the inside.

Despite how hard she acts to be tough, she is a sensitive person who does care what people say. As much as I try to think that she’s heartless and mean, my sister is just as vulnerable and loving as the next person.

11. No matter how much we fight, she is stuck with me forever.

My sister can argue, fight, and not speak to me as much as she likes, but that doesn’t change the fact that she can never get rid of me. She has no choice but to deal with my attitude and listen to me talk 24/7 about how I plan on changing the world. In exchange, I have to listen to her complain about studies and her love for cake.

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Any girl who is at least 5'8" will understand these struggles and possibly identify with them on a spiritual level.

1. Dresses not being long enough

Finding dresses for any occasion that will be long enough is like searching for rain in a drought. And when you find one, it's bound to either cost $$$ or not fit another aspect of your body.

2. Heck, pants are never long enough either

You are constantly flooding, or else you rolled up your jeans to look like capris. Unless you special ordered some jeans online in the coveted size LONG or EXTRA LONG, this will forever be your fate.

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

This is a personal preference people! Don't assume that a girl will or will not date someone just based on their height difference! Also, don't judge if they aren't interested in someone who is shorter than them!

4. Not wearing heels because you don't enjoy being the skyscraper of the friend group

Wearing heels can be fun buuuuuuuut sometimes towering over everyone else is not our idea of fun.

5. It's hard to find cute shoes that actually fit

You would love to have all those cute little shoes in the clearance section, but most of them barely cover your big toe.

6. Everyone thinks you walk too fast

Short-legged people just can't keep up with you, even though you aren't even walking fast. Like at all.

7. People want to jump on your back

Just because you're tall doesn't give them the license to make you into their personal camel.

8. Never being able to cross your legs underneath desks and tables

You. Can. Not. Get. Comfortable.

9. Awkward hugs

Some people will never understand.

10. Never knowing how to pose in pictures

Should you sorority squat? Pop the hip? Bend the leg? Contort your body to feel like a normal sized human? So hard to decide.

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The Shape Of The Monster: Depression

The second piece in a series about mental illness.


The last thing I want to do is glorify mental illness, give it a platform, give it a name. But I need to talk about it, to work through it, to show that it's something many people experience.

It goes like this.

Hey! Sorry I haven't called you back. Everything has been so busy.

Every time I think about even picking up the phone and calling you, something heavy but familiar sets in my stomach like a weight.

You know how things get.

You know how easy it is to want to slip into absolute nothingness, right?

I've been trying to write, but my writer's block has been limiting me a lot.

Everything I write is so bad. The flow is off. It doesn't sound like me. It feels so crooked and wrong. I can't do anything right.

How are things? Has work been alright?

I hope you feel successful. I hope things are easier for you. I hope you are as happy as you seem.

I'm okay.

I don't want to be here. I don't want to be anywhere. I feel crooked and wrong like I just want to scream and cry and dissolve.

I've just been so tired!

I have been tired for at least a decade. Tired of never sleeping. Tired of never feeling anything more than either absolute devastation and absolute nothingness. Tired. Tired. Tired.

I hope I can see you soon.

I hope I can bring myself to get out of bed and out into the world. I hope I can force myself to shower, and get dressed, and be a contributor to society, to social obligations.

I miss you.

I miss you.

I love you.

I love you.

I promise to call as soon as things lighten up a bit.

As long as the chemical imbalance doesn't destroy me altogether, hopefully, I can feign vague interest for a short phone call.


Goodbye for now, maybe goodbye forever, maybe I'll work up the courage to call you in another 2, 5, 7 weeks or so. My life is made of "maybes." Maybe one-day things will be better. Maybe one day I'll be happy. Maybe one day I won't be anything. Maybe.

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