11 Struggles All Extroverts Know All Too Well

11 Struggles All Extroverts Know All Too Well

"What do mean you can't hang out?"

I've been an extreme extrovert my entire life. I'm the girl with tons of friends, and no, this isn't necessarily because I am popular. It just means I am not afraid to talk to people. According to Urban Dictionary, the most reliable dictionary out there (yes, that was dripping with sarcasm), extrovert means "Assholes who don't know when to shut their goddamn mouth. Sadly they make up most of the population on Earth." We are the outgoing type, sociable people, and sometimes even the life of the party. Here is a list of 11 things all extroverts know:

1. New friends always think you are "too clingy" in the beginning.

This is just because you are always initiating plans with them because you love getting to know people and hanging out with anyone and everyone.

2. It takes forever to walk anywhere.

When I leave to go to class, I leave my room with extra time because I am always stopped by people on the paths. I just see someone I know and we stop and talk for a bit. I can't walk anywhere without knowing someone. I went on a wilderness adventure hiking in the Poconos in PA. I ran into someone I knew...

3. When you wanna hang out every night but no one if free.

It's like this: You get your work done in the groups of people while you hang out earlier in the day but then all of them need to go off and do theirs because they couldn't get it done in a group.

4. You are happier and energized when you are around people.

When I am alone I just lie around and do nothing, I have no motivation to do anything. With people though, I am excited and ready to do all sorts of things. I need to be with people, it’s the only way I can function.

5. You are often the center of attention whether you like it or not.

Being the life of the party has its perks, but it also means that everyone is watching you and listening to you. Hopefully, you have developed excellent story-telling skills so you entertain them about your adventures in life.

6. Everyone thinks you are a "teacher's pet" because you talk a lot in class

No, it’s because awkward silence is so uncomfortable for everyone. I would rather answer the question wrong than sit in silence. Plus your likely have some input that you want to share with everyone, a different perspective to the table.

7. You have a tendency to adopt introverts and take them under your wing.

It is hard to understand that some people get tired of being around people too long. You try to help them befriend more people so they have more people to hang out with when needed. It also means that when it’s just the two of you hanging out it isn't overwhelming for them and you still have someone to connect with.

8. The friendship groups are made up of different types of people.

Since you love being with people and talking to anyone, you draw in every walk of life. You do not judge and you are willing to talk with anyone, so your friend groups are very different. There are times, however, when you try to bring them all together and it just gets weird. But you bring people together nonetheless!

9. People come to you to talk about their problems.

You are the approachable one and you have lots of friends so you might have more life experience or at least have seen a lot of things happen to people over the years. People trust you and know that they can talk to you about anything because you enjoy talking and you generally care deeply for them.

10. You step up and be a leader.

You have no problem taking control and talking to people, public speaking isn't so difficult because you are used to talking to a lot of people anyway. Someone has to take control, right? So you step up to the plate and fulfill the role.

11. You are constantly talking to people.

Even though you might be with friends, you have a lot of friends that you constantly keep in contact with. This means your social media is often blowing up your phone. Don't want to leave anyone waiting too long for your reply!

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.

Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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Implement Minimalism In Your Life, It Is Easier Than You Think

Less = more.


Living minimalistic in our world today opposes structures that society instills in us as the correct way of living. Minimalism is identified as outlandish and lunatic. The problem with the structural development of our society is that it prides itself with possessions and owning endless "things." It's funny how the possession and acquisition of less is therefore paradoxical. As a greater inundation of materialistic objects enters our world and our lives, it seems this is the only way.

What those who have implemented minimalism have found is that this "one-way" path of life unveils its deceit after adopting owning less. In a general sense, minimalism is owning fewer physical objects, but it extends beyond this. Minimalism can meander into all aspects of life, covering all corners. It extends itself especially into an individual's personal life and growth, stripping away insignificant priorities and providing value to life itself.

The more time spent focusing on matters of true importance, the more minimalism is implemented, taking care of what's best for you. Ultimately, minimalism teaches truth, and it is easier to implement than you think. Once you begin to implement this practice in your life, you'll discover these truths and grow your identity.

Maintain a higher standard of value in possessions and life.

The simple explanation is that owning less puts more value on the few possessions owned. A more elaborate definition displays minimalism as the quality of maintaining value and respect; it creates room to appreciate creations. Instead of cluttering your life with wasteless ideals and things, you'll find yourself at the helm of living fully, spending every moment how you want to. You'll find oodles of time to grow in the way you want, rather than letting time slip away and society define you.

Live free, never restricted to inanimate life.

Living free coincides with greater value. The less you are physically and emotionally restrained, the more freedom is discovered. The anchor that I'll call "possessions" disallows freedom and the ability to experience. With fewer worries and thoughts placed on the inundation of "things," time will reveal itself, and you'll end up worrying less about guilt and dissatisfaction.

Focus on the pre-eminent areas of life.

As less time is spent on the saturation of unsatisfaction, you'll be able to do more of what you find value in. Whether it's hobbies, health, relationships, or academics, deeper growth will be achieved. Allotting valuable time to what matters advocates and embellishes peace of mind. Simplification of life naturally generates happiness, and more time spent on enjoyment means a better quality of life.

Minimalism ultimately exceeds the surface level definition that most of us are used to and reaps in benefits once applied on this profound level. It is by no means a quick fix to life, but the slow implementation allows greater exploration of truth and unfolds the gift that we call life. Whatever area of your life you think needs a little tweaking, I challenge you to implement ideals of minimalism.

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