There are two types of friends in this world: The one friend that loves and accepts you, flaws and all, encourages you, motivates you, cares for you and will go great lengths to make sure you're okay.Then the other that completely sucks the life right out of you. They're always negative, stressed out and just all around bad energy. If she's this kind of friend, then here are 11 reasons why you need to cut her off. Immediately.
1. She talks negatively about others... but then posts pictures with those same people on Instagram the next day.
It's an immediate red flag when they are constantly talking badly about people, anyway. They'll go on and on and on about this, that, and the other thing. The next day, however, you'll see them being all "buddy buddy" with the person they absolutely despised the day before. They'll even post pictures with them on Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat using the caption "#sistersforlife." If she does this kind of thing, run. Run and never look back.
2. She talks more than she listens.
A conversation involves two people and should never be one sided. It's one thing if there's something that's really been bothering her and she needs a listening ear. But if she does this every single time you guys hang out, then it's time to let go.
3. She makes everything about her.
It's almost as though she feels more important than you or anyone, for that matter. Let's put it this way, if you were to Google "What does the earth revolve around?" right this second, she wouldn't show up anywhere in the search results. I can assure you.
4. When she needs you, you have about 14 messages and three missed calls. But when you need her...she's silent.
I get it. We're adults and we're busy. Life takes its toll on everybody and that's fine. But if you were able to make time for her, then she can make time for you. Once again, a friendship is never one sided.
5. It's her way or the highway.
This is something that irks me the most about people. Sure, for our own convenience, we all want things to go our way. That's just human nature. But once again, we are adults. If your friends get upset and starts going off on everybody because something didn't go her way, it's time to kick her to the curb.
6. She's passive-aggressive.
You know, taking the last jab, sugar coating criticisms with compliments. That sort of thing. *cough* snake *cough*
7. She criticizes you and your interests.
Friends are supposed to encourage and uplift you. Not tear you down and make you feel awful about yourself. Also, it is fine when two people don't always like the same things. But if she's a real jerk about certain things you like, don't be afraid to tell her goodbye.
8. She always plays the victim. ALWAYS.
Nothing is EVER her fault. She never takes responsibility for her own actions and always needs someone else to blame. She will often throw people under the bus just to make herself look good. Girl, bye.
9. She is always involved in some sort of drama.
Pretty self-explanatory.
10. You have a strange feeling about her.
When we have a strange feeling about somebody, most of the time we're right. You aren't being "crazy" or "paranoid." Your body picks up those certain vibrations for a reason. If something isn't right about the person you've been friends with, then I'd highly suggest finding people who want to be around you and actually care about your well being.
11. You are too good to be around such negative energy.
No explanation even needed.
Surely you're familiar with the old saying, "The devil won't approach you in the form of a red monster with horns and a pitchfork, he'll approach you like a dream come true." The same can go for humans. They'll seem like the nicest person you've ever encountered, but in a few months, or even a few years, their true colors will show. Don't ever feel sorry for cutting off a person that you feel is toxic. Set yourselves free from them and be unapologetic about it.
