I Was Always The Girl Who Would 'NEVER Join A Sorority,' Until I Did

I Was Always The Girl Who Would 'NEVER Join A Sorority,' Until I Did

It can create a lifetime of friendships and opportunities.

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I was always the girl who said I'd never join a sorority. Yet, here I am. After a friend I had met my freshman year encouraged me to try out her sorority, I decided to give it a chance.

Every reason I ever had to not join one, turned out to be wrong.

1. There’s more then just social sororities 

I joined Omega Phi Alpha, a service sorority. The majority of our requirements are related to volunteering.

2. Not all of them are too expensive

As someone with no money, I thought a sorority was way out of my financial capabilities. But in reality a lot of sororities don't actually cost that much and some offer fee waivers.

3. It pushes me outside of my comfort zone

Being in a sorority forces me to push myself to go out and socialize. Instead of just hanging around my apartment watching Netflix.

4. An opportunity to create life long friends

Of course joining a sorority isn't the only opportunity to meet new people but it is an option. These girls are all passionate about giving back to the community as much as me.

5. My Big and entire sorority family

Having someone to look up to and a whole group of women to offer me a support system is amazing.

6. I’m not paying for friends, I’m paying for experiences

The fee is for all the trips and events we get to attend.

7. The movies aren’t always right

At least in my experience the movies aren't exactly what being in a sorority is about. So don't let those depictions scare you away.

8. Looks good on a resume

Being in a sorority is actually really good on a resume. It shows commitment and can improve numerous life skills.

9. Having a group that has my back

Having people to turn to in times of need is something everyone could use.

10. Always keeps me busy

I never don't have something to do. Between the requirements of being in the sorority and classes.

11. Creates a lifetime of friendships and opportunities

This experience will continue throughout my entire life.

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My Sisterhood Is Not Your Joke

Between stereotypes and laughing at our traditions, the teasing needs to stop.
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It doesn’t take a genius to realize that sororities are unlike any other organization. Each sorority is different, and every chapter has its own unique traditions. It is hard to understand why we do the things we do if you aren’t involved in Greek life. But because my sisterhood is different than your social group or service committee does not make it the brunt of your jokes.

Sorority girls are smart. We aren’t airheads who put our social lives before our grades. Most sororities require members to maintain a certain GPA. In some cases, girls who fall below a required academic standard have minor consequences to face. Sisters help each other study, attend class together, and encourage each other in academics. Many sorority girls go on to be successful in scientific fields, hold positions of authority in business endeavors, and impact lives of others no matter their profession.

I didn’t buy my friends nor am I in it for a resume builder. “Did you join a sorority so you can buy your friends because you can’t get them on your own?” This is my favorite. If I were in a sorority to buy my friends, my sisters would be a getting a whole lot back in terms of monetary compensation. As it turns out, you get so much more than money from a sorority. Because I joined a sisterhood, I have made my best friends. These girls will be there for the rest of college and hopefully the rest of my life. There is not enough money in the world that I could give them in return for their love and company. I also didn’t go through recruitment to build my resume. Yes, it definitely is a benefit to be a part of an organization that is nationally known in terms of service and leadership opportunities. But no, that’s not why I joined.

We don’t get drunk and hook up with guys every time we go to a party. You might think it’s funny to ask me every time I come home from a party how many shots I took or how many guys I made out with, but it’s not. Things like this happen at parties, but that’s just how college is. It’s not specific to Greek organizations. I have never been told so many times that underage drinking is not allowed than I have by my sisters. Also, not every party or social event is some huge rager with obscene amounts of drugs and alcohol. In reality, very few of them are. A lot of social events held across Greek communities are really casual and for the purpose of just getting to know each other.

‘Big’ and “Little” aren’t just cute nicknames. My Big is my mentor, my best friend, and my family. Yes, I will always call her Big. No, that doesn’t just mean she was assigned to me after I signed my bid card. She didn’t pull my name out of a hat one day and decide she liked me. We were paired together because our personalities matched and because we would help each other grow and become the best members of our chapter that we could be.

Yes, my letters are everything. I cannot count the number of times someone has made a joke about the hand signs sorority girls hold up in pictures, better known as “throwing what we know.” Yes, it’s silly, but it’s important. Throwing what we know is a way for each of us to make our mark and to remember the moments we’ve shared with our sisters. It reminds me that everywhere I go, I am representing my sisterhood and the values we uphold.

We keep the most important things a secret. Sorry, no matter how much you poke and prod, I am not going to tell you our initiation ritual. This is the most important moment of being a member of a sisterhood, and it isn’t to be shared with people who don’t appreciate it. Keeping these special moments safe within the sisterhood is a way that the members draw closer together. Rituals and traditions are why a lot of girls join and choose to stay in a sorority. It’s how each girl connects to her sisters.

You will never understand what it means to be a sorority unless you join one. I’m not saying to go and sign up for recruitment right now because it isn’t for everyone. It’s important however, to realize that just because we do things a little bit differently than you might or we have some habits you might find odd doesn’t mean we need to be your jokes. We are not a stereotype, each sister is different, and if you took the time to meet us and listen to us talk about how much we love Greek life, you will see us all a little differently.

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Dear Sorority Girls On The Concourse, Please Stop

Get some ice cream, let the voting happen as it will, and take a chill pill.

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My RBF as I pass by has nothing to do with whether I like you, whether I like the ideas of sororities or whether or not I'm late to class. Okay, it might have a little bit to do with the latter.

My earbuds are very much turned up as loud as they can go for one simple fact: I do not have time.

I understand you want to support your little organizations or promote your sisters for different spots such as Miss Auburn. However, I do not want to hear it in all my class GroupMes. I do not want you to get in my face on the concourse when it is obvious I do not care. I do not want to be bombarded with the same questions over and over. I do not want to have to avoid the quickest way to the class that I'm about to be late to because you took up the entire concourse.

The fact of the matter is that if I were going to vote, I would have already. Trust me, I see the Instagram posts, I see the signs all over campus. I see the T-shirts. I see the free stuff you're giving out and get that it's to get my attention but to tell you the truth, I'm more likely to take the stuff and never give the voting a second thought. You presented the opportunity.

Please don't take this the wrong way. I do not intend to be rude or bash on how you go about getting the attention you need. But please, find some other way to do it because you are standing between me and my history class and if you touch me I will get an attitude real quick.

Now, even though this post is directed to the girls, guys do it too when it comes to their friend running for student government. I get that you guys are excited but please no more spamming my phone with six messages in a row about the same thing that I still, personally, do not care about. Please and thank you.

Get some ice cream, let the voting happen as it will, and take a chill pill.

In conclusion, I may not understand fully why you do it. I apologize for the daggers I shoot at you when you come near me like you're gonna get my attention even if it means pulling out my earbuds. But please. Stop.

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