Before this article even starts, let us all just admit to ourselves that breakups suck. They are all around bad for everyone involved, and unfortunately, they are inevitable, unless you are one of the very few people (less than 2 percent to be exact) who get lucky with their first love. For the other 98 percent of people, at least we're all in this together. We've all been there, and we all know that some people handle it better than others. On the list of things you shouldn't do after the relationship ended, these may just be the worst.
1. End It Bad
Let's start with the breakup itself. If it involves using any method besides doing it in person or over the phone, don't even go there. Believe it or not, you CAN find a way worse than a text to do it. A text makes you the worst, but doing it over Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, or any other form of social media, makes you the worst of the worst.
2. Stalk Them On Social Media
Stalking your ex-significant other on social media can do two things for you. It can either make you feel better about yourself because you're having more fun than they are or make you feel worse because they're having more fun. At the end of the day, it will probably make you feel bad no matter what because you'll realize that it's much too soon to forget about them all together.
3. Text Them All The Time
The bottom line is you need to be respectful of the person on the other end of the situation. If you're constantly texting them, whether you did the breaking up or not, you need to give them their space. Everyone heals at their own pace and giving them space is crucial to their process.
4. Hook Up With Everyone
Again, no matter what end you're on after the breakup, hooking up with everyone is not going to make you feel better. Using another person to numb your own pain will hurt a total of three people, and nobody wants to be that guy.
5. Invade Their Space
Relating back to the stalking on social media, invading their space and accidentally on-purpose running into them in public is not okay. It's guaranteed to make everyone uncomfortable and, depending on the situation, could end in a very messy situation.
6. Try To Be Friends Right Away
For argument's sake, being friends with your ex-significant other could help avoid uncomfortable situations in the future if you have mutual friends. However, trying to be friends right away could make the entire situation worse. Stick to a few weeks, maybe months, apart and then see how you feel about each other.
7. Delete Every Trace Of Them
Deleting all traces of your ex is another thing that you probably think would help your healing process, but it really just does not. Looking at old pictures and reminiscing on memories may not help the process right away, but it isn't a good idea to drop all traces of them right away.
8. Be "Friends With Benefits"
If there is one thing you take away from this article, DO NOT become friends with benefits with your ex. There is no situation in the history of the world where this has worked. With all of the residual feelings involved in a breakup, friends with benefits is an all around bad idea. I cannot stress this enough.
9. Trash Their Stuff
On the crazy scale, trashing an ex's stuff is pretty high up on the list. There are very few situations where trashing their stuff is justified. Trashing their stuff in the event of a simple breakup is just in bad taste. The reasons why should not have to be explained.
10. Not Give Yourself Time To Heal
I take it back. Giving yourself time to heal is the most crucial part of a breakup. If you don't allow yourself time, you're going to end up bottling up your feelings and just feeling worse. Give yourself time to fully find yourself after a breakup, and then focus on what comes next on the dating scene. At the end of the day, you can trust time with your feelings.
