I find it kind of funny when girl’s get on me for “being obsessed with my boyfriend”...Yes, I’m obsessed with this wonderful human being that came into my life unexpectedly and whom I plan on spending the rest of my life with, isn’t that normal?

Don’t get me wrong, with as funny as I find it, I still let it bother me. I get really defensive when people make it seem like I’m doing something wrong for loving and spending time with someone who will probably be the father of my children one day.

At some point we have to say to ourselves, you know what, we aren’t 14, 15 years old anymore..We’re adults, and if we’re lucky enough to be obsessed with our boyfriends, then YAY, good for us.

So here are 10 things that girl’s who have been accused of being “obsessed” with their boyfriends would really like you to know.

1. You’d be obsessed with him too.

I swear to goodness, he is such a kind hearted soul. He never fails to amaze me with the simplicity of his actions that still find a way to bring the biggest smile to my face. I never wanted to be this obsessed-in love, with a person, but now that I am, I’m not the least bit sorry.

2. Are we still in middle school?

Why does it matter if I’m all giddy and in love? Does it really bother you that bad? I think if your answer is yes, you need to get out and experience the world a little more. Learn to love small things and hate way less.

3. Obsessed is the wrong word.

I’m eternally blessed with the presence of this man.

I don’t stalk his every move, I don’t creep on his phone or computer, I respect his privacy. I just love the hell out of him. So no, obsessed isn’t the right word. In love, infatuated, amazed...grateful. Those will do it.

4. What If

What if you were in a relationship with a man who wasn’t obsessed with you? For the want of an ideal term in relationships--in love. Would you want to be with him? If he didn’t feel for you the way I feel about my boyfriend? Wouldn’t you feel like you were missing out on what it was like to be with someone you genuinely cared for? I’m not saying you have to feel exactly how I do, everyone feels differently, but all these feelings you may call obsessive, those are actually feelings of love, and everyone deserves to feel or be felt about in that way.

5. Don’t be spiteful

A lot of times (more often than not) the girl’s saying other girls are too obsessed with their boyfriends are the ones who don’t have a boyfriend or have had rough relationships in the past. I guess my words to you girls would be to keep looking. There is someone out there, but in the meantime, let the ones who have already found Mr. Right be happy about it. It’s a lot easier to do when we aren’t made out to be the bad guy for feeling too hard.

6. I’ve been that girl before

I hate to admit it, but there was a point when I was jealous of relationships around me. I used the phrase a little too often: “Why is she so obsessed with her boyfriend?” I found that it was because I missed that guy in my own life and was a little salty about the fact I didn’t have him. It took a while before I stopped being that girl altogether.

(Which brings me to my next point)

7. YOU DON’T NEED A MAN TO BE HAPPY OR OBSESSED WITH

This one is important because I was going down the wrong path for awhile looking for this perfect guy to pop out behind a tree and scream, “HONEY HERE I AM.” It actually took a year of me looking for me to finally realize that the whole time I was too busy looking to be the least bit bitter of other girl’s relationships, I didn’t need someone to make me happy—at least that’s the conclusion I came to. I found that my life was way easier when I gave up the jealous little knots I felt in my stomach when seeing a happy couple walk by, so I focused them on bettering myself so maybe Mr. Right loved the great girl I am today vs the jealous girl I use to be.

8. When I did find him...

God, I just knew. It was all these different emotions just storming through me at once. I didn’t know if they were butterflies, a tornado of different feelings, or walking off a building blindfolded, but a little combination of all of them led me right to the “obsessive“ (or whatever you want to call it) today.

9. Before you call the girl after me “too obsessed with her boyfriend” hear me out.

It kinda hurts. I know I care too much what people think. Sometimes I react differently and flip out when I hear things like that, other times I break down. It causes a lot of irrational thinking on my part, like--“Am I not being a good enough friend?” ...”Should I not spend as much time with my boyfriend?” “What’s the right answer?”

When really the right answer is this:

If you’re my friend or even an acquaintance of mine, and my relationship with my boyfriend is too much for you, then we probably shouldn’t be friends. Because while you were there saying things behind my back, he was comforting me. I think that’s the best example of why my feelings for him are what they are.

10. Thank you

Thanks for getting under my skin to the point of me having to write this. It took a lot of back and forth thoughts. It was one huge debate that I felt like I was never going to win, but then I realized not saying something was just as bad as you saying it repeatedly to other people. You needed to know, and I needed to let you know.

So to the girl’s who accuse other girl’s of being “too obsessed” with their boyfriends,

don’t worry..

we got this.

But thank you.

Sincerely,

--The happy and in love.