10 Things (and one bonus) I've Learned in 22 Years

10 Things (and one bonus) I've Learned in 22 Years

Top lessons I've learned in 22 years

A new year in life brings new challenges and a time to reflect on the things you've learned in the past year. I have experienced such a personal development, especially in the last year, and I have also seen others struggling through the same things I did. This may help, it may not. But I certainly know that these are some pieces of advice I certainly could have used.

1. Life is not a spectator's sport

Go out and experience things rather than just sitting in your room. Your friends are going to a party and they invite you? Go! You get the chance to visit another country? Go! Life is too short to miss out on priceless experiences. Make sure there is nothing to regret when you're older.

2. Taking care of yourself is not selfish

We all need to take care of ourselves mentally and physically. Eating well and practicing healthy habits can do wonders for our stressful lives. And yes, you're still fun if you decide to eat healthier than your friends are at lunch or if you need to pass on going to Applebee's because you're having a crap mental health day. Sometimes you need to take care of yourself.

3. Changing yourself for YOU is okay

Feeling not at 100% and want to change that? Great! Go for it!! In this specific case I'm talking about weight. I've found that every time I say to someone that I want to eat healthier and/or lose weight, they instantly come up with reasons for me to doubt myself or my choice. Change (in a safe way) to make yourself happy, no one else.

4. Take a risk

Not sure if you'd look good with red hair but want to dye it anyway? Do it. Go bungee jumping if you're a thrill seeker. Getting out of your comfort zone will open you up as an individual and leave you with fun memories.

5. Ending unhealthy relationships doesn't make you a bad person

Some people are meant to be in our lives and some people aren't. That's okay. If someone makes you feel insignificant, maybe they aren't the best fit for your life or your way forward. It doesn't make you a terrible human being to cut ties with unhelpful people.

6. Be outspoken

You're going to come face-to-face with people who want to put you or your ideas down. Speak up. Don't let anyone walk all over you.

7. Test your limits

See what you can do (and do it safely).

8. It's okay if you're not who your parents thought you'd be

Whether it's from physicality to sexuality or anything in between, you are your own individual. You are not bound to your parents' perceptions or ideas of who you should be, in their eyes.

9. Stay young

In this world, it's easy to become bitter and closed off. Try to enjoy what made you happy when you were younger and remember the joy you felt at the world. Hold onto it as long as you can.

10. Nap when you can

You'll lose sleep over significant others, school, friends, family, etc. Treasure your naps.

11. Find your family

Friends can, are, and will be family. They will be there when no one else is. Find them and hold them tight.

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Why Is Independence So Attractive?

You're an adult, it's time to start acting like one

The dating game is a social and primal sport played among all humans; it has many rules, both implied and unspoken. There are some traits and qualities that men and women both look for, and quite a few that turn them away as well. Above all, there are some things we all look for whether we are actually aware of them or not.

Let's say you're on a date with a very attractive person; they're kind, funny, and they can hold an intelligent conversation. The evening is going well until they tell you that their parents still do their laundry, they aren't working, they don't know how to cook, they can't change a tire, and they're still "figuring it out" when it comes to their career and life path.

Turned off? We all are.

Independence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have. A person who is going places in life, a person who has a career and a plan for themselves, a person who does their own laundry and even knows how to remove a wine stain from a dress shirt...all of these are examples of qualities that we naturally find desirable.

Being your own person and not always relying on someone else for everything is important, but not only in dating, it is important for your own growth. You should be taking the steps toward adulthood in every aspect: assuming responsibility for your actions, forming meaningful and honest relationships, being punctual, learning life skills, pursuing a career, and beginning to learn everything else that comes along with "adulting". These steps may feel terrifying at first, but they will pay off.

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8 Things Every Student Has Involuntarily Gone Through To Get To College

A lot of us have been there and have gone through most of these emotions through the long and stressful college process.

1. Starting freshman year and people telling you that your time in high school flies.

One night you go to bed a freshman, then the next it's senior year and you're counting down the days until graduation.

2. Realizing that it's already junior year and you have to start looking at colleges.

Of course, you have to visit every college that has the possibility of your major.

3. When you visit so many colleges that they all start to mesh together.

After visiting anywhere from ten to twenty colleges, they all start to look the same.

4. Starting the application process and of course, being super stressed about it.

There's the Common App, endless amount of essays, and of course, scholarship applications.

5. Finally sending in all your applications!

Getting the confirmation email that your application has been sent is one of the best feelings.

6. Then, realizing you have to wait for all your acceptances.

Realizing you have to wait up to four months for your acceptance letter back is super stressful, but totally worth the wait.

7. Finally getting the letter from the school you've been waiting for.

Getting that later in the mail and opening it, or if your mom is like mine and opens it without you, is an amazing feeling.

8. Committing to your school and spending way too much money at the bookstore!

You of course have to get something for yourself, your parents, grandparents, siblings, and every member of your family that you can think of.

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