Being obsessive is really quite the chore, which is something non-obsessive people don’t quite understand. The amount of emotional intensity that goes into obsessing over someone is insane. So for those of you who don’t quite understand what it’s like to constantly be obsessing over a celebrity, here is a step-by-step walkthrough down that horrible path.

1. Sometimes it’s love at first sight, sometimes it happens a long time after your first introduction, but there’s always that realization that takes you by surprise.

Oh no, you just had a very strong, grossly affectionate or intrigued feeling for them.

2. So, naturally, you try to keep it deep down inside. Denial is always better, right?

If you pretend not to like them, maybe you won’t actually like them. Play it cool at the very least.

3. But in reality, you’re looking up interviews on YouTube. Casually, of course.

The bad news is that yes, they really are that cute and/or interesting and/or funny.

4. You definitely don’t memorize their Wikipedia page.

That would be nonsense.

5. And you’re definitely not frantically reading every article you come across of them.

We’re all masters of Google searches.

6. You create a new folder on your computer or phone to start saving every picture you come across.

Word of advice: Google Reverse Image Search is your best, best friend.

7. And now you’re trying to figure out how you can fit their entire filmography/discography/whatever else into your schedule.

You should be finished in three weeks if you watch/listen to something whenever you can.

8. Your friends and acquaintances have started to associate that person with you ages ago, whether you like it or not.

They know how much you’re obsessing over them, even if you think you’re subtle.

9. But, of course, you finally have to come out and say that they’re your fave.

And you love your faves unconditionally (for the most part).

10. And then you start fighting people on the Internet over them.

A true rite of passage for any new celebrity you fall in love with.