10 Simple Ways To Show Your Significant Other That You Totally Heart Them

10 Simple Ways To Show Your Significant Other That You Totally Heart Them

There's No Reason To Leave The Honeymoon Phase
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When you first start seeing someone, you are most certainly in the honeymoon phase. I would know—I’m living it. The weather is great here. We don’t fight, we laugh A LOT, and we’re constantly learning new and exciting things about each other. He is interesting and so am I. We don’t have any real problems, and if we did this early, it may be a sign that things weren’t right. I love living in the honeymoon phase where we’re totally smitten. But, like all good things, it will end. Now this isn’t to say we won’t love being around each other, or the feelings will fade, because it doesn’t have to be that way (don’t panic babe this isn’t a my-girlfriend-is-planning-our-break-up article) as long as you keep being interested and choosing each other.

We’ve known each other six weeks and have been dating for three of them, so obviously neither of us are ready to be dropping the “L” word and even if we were, I think we’re both aware of the weight it carries, and we’re just fine waiting to use it. So here are 10 ways we tell each other we care for each other, or, in our words, how to say, “I totally heart you.”

1. Listening & Remembering

When we’re young we’re told how important it is to be good listeners, and it’s true, you have to listen, but more than that, you have to hear the person you’re talking with. Nothing make my day more when my SO remembers what I had planned and asks me about it, or wishes me luck without me having to prompt them. This is how you show interest.

2. Doing Small Things to Make Their Life A Little Easier

My SO will pump my gas when it’s cold, help scrape ice and snow off of the car (he tries to do it himself but I won’t let him) and helps clean up when we cook dinner. Seems simple—seems like things you should do, but so many people don’t and just recognizing the little things that stress your person out or finding small gestures like these show you care.

3. There’s No Such Thing As Too Much Gratitude

Always, ALWAYS, A L W A Y S say thank you. Tell them you appreciate them, even when you know they know. Say thank you. Being told someone appreciates you is a serious game changer. Honestly. It makes you want to keep doing the nice thing for them and it shows that your SO values the things you do.

4. Be Silly

Make a fool of yourself, make ugly faces, and laugh weird and dance in the kitchen, we pride ourselves in weird faces and accents. Being silly, making a total fool of yourself every now and then allows you to get comfortable with a person and show that you trust them, that you don’t judge them, and won’t judge them. If you can’t be silly with your SO, what’s the point?

5. Leave Notes

We love giving and getting cards and notes from each other. It’s a good way to be mushy and sweet with minimal effort and a lot of pay out. His notes are all saved, and I love reading them. Sure he says nice things over text, but there is something about the extra time it takes to fill out a handwritten note for your person.

6. Introduce Them to Your Friends and Include Them

I feel really special when I get to meet new friends and even hangout with the guys. This isn’t to say you should do all things with your SO, but letting the person you’re dating get to know the people in your life shows that you’re in one way or another serious about them.

7. Ask Questions

Always ask about their day, listen to their thoughts and ask questions when they talk about things they’re passionate about. When you seem interested, you score major brownie points. Plus, you want to be someone they can trust, and hopefully become one of their best friends. I promise you won’t accomplish that by nodding along. **If you’re not interested at all, consider re-evaluating why you’re with this person.

8. Call Them

And don’t ask if it’s okay. Just Call. Nothing makes me happier than seeing his name pop up on my phone in the middle of the day, and if I’m busy, I just won’t answer or vice versa. You need to be able to accept they may not always answer, but calling to hear their voice, ask a question or see how their day is going, is always a good idea.

9. Tell Stories

Let them in on who you are. Tell them about the crazy thing you did at 16 or how you got that scar. Talk about your siblings or your parents. This is how you get to know someone.

10. Be Honest

If you don’t like something, say something. But have a solution and be ready to offer examples of what happened. Have a conversation, be open and work through it. If you want to make it past the honeymoon phase, be ready to deal with the things that may cause it to end early. No relationship comes without honesty.


{A quick aside to my guy: Thanks for doing all of these and then some}

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20 Reasons You Should Date A Nurse, As Told By Their Significant Others

Who better to get advice from than the ones actually doing it?

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Have you ever wondered what it is like to date a nurse? Why do some people do it? Don't they have countless 12-hour shifts (including nights), bring home gross diseases, always tired, holidays are up in the air, and tell ungodly stories that make you nauseous? Well, there are a lot more bright sides we don't always see.

I could tell you that nurses are natural caretakers, compassionate, smart, a little sarcastic, patient, etc., or you can hear all that and more from people who actually date nurses.

So, I asked 20 couples to tell me why dating a nurse is the best decision you can make.

1. You get the best start to your day.

Ari and Victoria

"It means getting used to being woken up early in the morning by his goodbye kiss as he goes off to the hospital. As much as I hate my sleep being disturbed, I worry when I don't get my morning kiss." -Victoria

2. The BEST personalities come from nurses. 

Kristine And Makato

"You get to be with a person who has a genuine caring and nurturing personality. You get someone who can put themselves in your shoes and still find it within themselves to put aside their differences in order to make sure you are okay. You get a one of a kind individual that you feel can do anything because of what the field demands. You feel like the luckiest person in the world because of these things. ♥️♥️♥️" -Makato

3. No emergency will scare them away. 

Theresa and Andrew

"Ladies, you should date a nurse because you'll always have emergency care 24/7. Seriously, the other day I fell and cut my knee. He was over with supplies and basically performed a full freaking head to toe assessment before I even knew what happened. Also, have you ever seen a man in scrubs? It's really a win win situation" -Theresa

4. You probably don't need health insurance

Alyssa and Mike

"So I don't have to go to the doctor's every time my head hurts. You can help." -Mike

5. They have the best sense of style.

Jenny and Emily (basically each others significant others...bffs 4 lyfe)

"Date a nurse because they are kind, compassionate, and always there to take care of you. Sick? BOOM, they know what to do. Need someone that you can trust to talk to? BOOM, they'll listen and never tell a soul what you said. Like a girl in uniform? BOOM, scrubs all day every day." -Jenny

6. You have your own walking, talking, WebMD (without the whole "you're probably dying" thing). 

Taylor and Matt

"Date a nurse because anytime I do something stupid like fall in the river, dislocate my knee fishing, cut my hands on rusty objects, knock teeth loose, get sick, or worry about medical problems, I have my own personal WebMD." -Matt

7. You get random check ups. 

Hannah and Robert

"I was watching TV, and out of nowhere, she's checking my pulse. She tells you you're breathing too much. She tells you you're not breathing enough. It's constant check up's." -Robert

(In our defense, we check peoples respiratory rate for a living. I know when I see 24 breaths/min or 14 breaths/min. Let me be.)

8. Your anxiety will be diminished and you save a ton of money. 

Ari and Victoria

"I spend way less on doctor bills and medical supplies now that I can ask my boyfriend my medical questions instead of having to go to the doctor to be told I'm perfectly healthy. He keeps my hypochondria in check for sure. My response to the littlest pain or annoyance is no longer 'call an ambulance'."-Victoria

9. They know how to call out bullshit. 

Cheryl and Carmine

"You do not get a lot of sympathy - unless you are REALLY sick or hurt !" -Carmine

10. They are always willing to help out. Because of this, YOU get to help out by becoming a practice dummy! 

Sammi and Caleb

"When dating a nurse you become a patient 24/7. Any new thing she's learning in class, gets practiced on you. If you're thinking about dating a nurse I'll tell you this, DO IT! They'll always be looking to help anyone who's sick or not in a great place mentally and I believe that to be the greatest trait anyone could have and I see that in a majority of nurses" -Caleb

11. They change you for the better. 

Erica and Jack

"Okay so she makes me grossly healthy, when I want burger king or something like that she offers to make healthy burgers, she convinced me to quit cigarettes because it is unhealthy, she checks my blood pressure constantly and when it's bad she lets me know and I go to the doctor's" -Jack

12. You basically have your own superhero.

Bryanna and Ryan

"Uhhh, duhhh you should date a nurse because they save lives; you're basically dating a superhero." -Ryan

Isn't this all we wanted as kids?

13. There is no such thing as being "too gross". They've seen it all. 

Jocelynn and Brandon

"You should date a nurse because you'll have someone who's able to patch you up after a stupid night out with the guys. Plus, you get a girl who's always responsible and selfless who wears her heart on her sleeve on the job & off. Knows how to be serious, yet still manages to use her sense of humor. Also, I get to pick my nose & fart without her being disgusted by it (MOST TIMES)" -Brandon

14. You're confused a lot because of all the terminology they are excited to share with you, but  don't worry they'll explain it. (We know the doctors never do *cough* *cough* another reason to date a nurse). 

Julia and Will

"You confuse me with words of nursing that I've never heard of or can barely even pronounce. Be prepared for overthinking and stress. A good thing about dating a nurse would be they know how to help when you get sicky, and it's hard to gross them out." -Will

15. They'll deal with your shit...sometimes

Zoe and Bobby

"Cause they take care of you when you're sick, lol. And they have a lot of patience..."

16. Are you a nurse dating a nurse? You will understand each other and their struggles immensely. 

Stanley and Rachel

She said : "You should date a nurse because they're so caring & know how to take care of you & are really smart & hardworking (aka my baby)"

He said: "Date a nurse because they are the most passionate of people. They care harder than anyone else and they will always be concerned with you and making sure you are okay, not just outside with cuts and bruises but on the inside where it counts in your heart. Also like, we just get each other and understand the time and work it takes and that's friggin huge"

AKA, they're basically the same human.

17. You kinda sorta maybe get a free pass to do stupid shit, because your nurse will be there. 

Erin and Joe

"You can do stupid shit and not have to worry about going to the hospital because she'll take care of you when you ultimately get hurt"-Joe

18. You have a knight in shining...scrubs? Yea, scrubs. Scrubs are definitely more moveable than armor. They're always ready to come save you.  

Mary and Nate

"I would say, 'Dating a nurse is peace of mind knowing that they have things under control when you slice your finger open even though they're an hour away' -Nate

19. If you're still wondering if dating a nurse is best for you, take it from these ladies who LIVE WITH ONE. (They're basically each others significant others).

Sarah (the nurse) with all the ones who put up with her: Maggie, Jenna, Claudia, Sophie, and Mellissa

"They complain about a headache but won't take medicine. They will be unavailable for hours at a time when exams are coming up" -Jenna

"When they come home tired from clinical and get drunk they want to kiss everyone" -Sophie

"You'll learn more than you ever wanted to know about the human body. They'll talk sense into you if you go too deep into WebMD" -Jenna (again; she was very passionate about this topic)

"They become your own personal WebMD, more logical though"- Mellissa

This is a confirmation that everyone else's statements are correct.

20. But honestly though....

Jess and Filip

"The real question is, why would you NOT want to date a nurse?!?" -Filip

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.

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I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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