Relationships at the end of the day are all about your love and trust between each other. However, there are so many signs screaming out that your relationship is unhealthy! Many people ignore the signs and end up having their heart broken tenfold than if they simply read them early on and figure out that's not what they deserve. Here are 10 signs that you need to reevaluate the path that your relationship is taking:
1. They manipulate you into staying in when you want to go out.
Relationships are supposed to be full of trust, right? You trust them, they should trust you! This goes for you as well though. If you feel like you don't trust them going out on their own, something is definitely wrong and you should trust your gut (and not be in that relationship!)
2. They make you feel bad for wanting to see anyone else but them.
Time apart is a good and healthy thing. You are not supposed to see each other 24/7, married people don't even do that! Married people have jobs and maybe kids. They have opposing schedules and don't see each other except the early morning, dinner through bed time, and on the weekends! Plus, you need other people in your life. Or else you will get sick of each other! Go hang out with a friend!
3. They lose their mind when you go anywhere near their phone.
This is 100% a bad sign. No, I'm not saying you should be going through each other's phones at all. That is your own private property. But if your S.O. is acting like there is something to hide when you simply walk by it on an unoccupied table, maybe you should trust your instincts and do a little digging.
4. They are constantly trying to change you.
Honey, you were put on this earth and made to be the person you are for a reason. Nobody should be trying to change you. Your looks, your personality, your outlook on life make you unique. Never change for ANYONE except yourself and for the better.
5. They turn you into an unusually negative person.
If you're regularly a mild-mannered and pleasant person, and your S.O. has a bad attitude and you pick up on it, people are sure to notice. Relationships with people are supposed to bring out the best in you, not the worst.
6. You are never their priority.
Now, I'm not saying when you date someone that you have to be the main priority. Their world didn't revolve around you before you started dating. Therefore, it should not now. But if you're going through a tough day and they choose to do something else with someone else rather than be there for you... you should evaluate the situation.
7. They are constantly pointing out your flaws and calling it “constructive criticism".
Everyone has flaws. We all know this. Opinions are like a**holes, everyone has one and everyone's is different. But if your S.O. spends significant time pointing out everything they think is wrong with you, then why are they even with you? They are supposed to love you for you, and support whatever decisions you make for yourself let it be changing a flaw you've noticed yourself or not.
8. They are never present in your conversations.
If your S.O. spends date night on their cell phone or they seem uninterested whenever you want to have a conversation about something you are passionate about, then something is definitely wrong.
9. They turn your happiest holidays into a day’s worth of fighting.
One thing that negative Nancy's like to do is ruin a good thing. If your S.O. turns every holiday into a constant argument and it's been a consistent theme for 3 years running then, again, something is wrong. Holidays are incredibly stressful, I know. But in the end they are supposed to be happy and bring people together. Not create PTSD from holidays past.
10. They make you feel guilty for being who you are.
Again, you are you for a reason. You shouldn't feel bad for being someone who likes to wear sweatpants 93% of the time. You shouldn't feel bad for being someone with an internal clock 5 minutes slower than everyone else when it comes to social gatherings. You shouldn't feel bad for being someone who nearly never dresses up because you don't want to and school/work doesn't call for it. If they want to date someone who is their perfectly sculpted human; tell them good luck because he/she doesn't exist.
