1. You cry more than you smile around them.
You're no longer happy around them. All they do is attack you and you find yourself waiting to be made upset by them every time that you see them. It's time to put that relationship to rest no matter how hard it is.
2. They don't compliment you; instead, they point out all your flaws.
Remember when they made you feel good and special? They don't anymore. You're essentially told you're not good enough no matter how hard you try and how much you do for them. You're still imperfect and do everything wrong.
3. It's all about them and you're never taken into account.
A relationship is supposed to be about both of your problems, not just one sided. You're supposed to listen to each other and talk about your days and discuss things. But they only seem to want to talk when they have something come up that they need advice on... but when you need to talk about something, they are nowhere to be found...
4. They don't stand up for you.
What kind of person doesn't stand up for you? Someone that doesn't deserve to be in your life. I've always managed to pick people that have never stood up for me but I'm sorry, no one deserves that. No friendship, intimate, or family member relationship should be like that. If you love someone, you stand up for them.
5. You can't trust them anymore.
They've told your secrets. They've lied about countless things to you. And they haven't done anything to try to regain that trust. "I don't care if you trust me or not" yeah, that's a stab in the heart.
6. It's completely unbalanced.
You're putting in all the effort to try to make things work between you two but they aren't doing anything to make things work. If you're the only one reaching out to text your friend or family member or trying to communicate with your partner, it's maybe time to let it go...
7. You're living in the past memories and there is no present.
Maybe you had everything in the past, all of those great memories and that's what you're holding onto. There isn't always a present. You can try for something in the present but it isn't always going to happen.. friendships change as do intimate relationships.. doors close for new ones to open.
8. When you keep giving them excuses for their actions.
Sometimes them being an ass is just them being a disrespectful ass (excuse my language). If you find yourself giving them an excuse for treating you like you are shit every other day, it's not a valid excuse. No matter what is going on in their life, they can change but only if they want to...
9. When your fundamental beliefs are different and they cause serious arguments, OVER and OVER again.
I have a lot of friends who have completely different beliefs than me on tons of different issues but some people can't deal with it. Some friends and I have strayed due to political beliefs and that's fine... I'm open to things but if they can't handle it having a mature conversation about it, then so be it. Arguments shouldn't happen over silly things.. especially big arguments. Maybe it's not meant to be...
10. You've put your life on hold to focus more on them than yourself, even if they don't deserve it.
This is a big one. You try to help a friend with life, school, relationships, or you try working on a romantic relationship so hard that you put your goals on hold to do so. This isn't how it should be. If it's taking that much effort, it's a lost cause.. if your friend doesn't push you to keep up with your life too, they aren't a true friend...
All kinds of relationships are hard... some are toxic. Some are good. Sadly once we get into them, it's hard to get out because once we get comfortable with someone, we don't want to leave and try to do that again with someone new even if your current relationship isn't the right one for you.
