Tinder was founded in 2012 and took over the college scene like crazy. Three years of being in college and I personally have never downloaded, never thought about it and never will. You won't find this girl on Tinder. Here are my reasons why:
1. No online dating apps for me, especially ones pinpointed at college campuses.
OK, let's really think about this. What good can come out of an app that makes it that much easier for girls and guys to find each other to hook up. I know that some people have actually met their significant others on Tinder, but more bad than good is gonna come out of this.
2. The operation and set-up.
No, just no. The way Tinder is set up is that they use your Facebook profile picture, geographic location, mutual friends and interest, and then give you a list of matches. With those results, you and the others can then swipe right if you like what you see or left if you want to pass and go on to the next face.
3. It's creepy.
After you get a match on Tinder, apparently, you can chat within the app with the people you have matches with. Sorry, I have no desire to chat with someone who probably just swiped about 45 other girls left to get to me, and there is no telling how many other girls he swiped right.
4. It's downright demeaning.
You aren't gonna judge whether you want to talk to me by looking at my profile picture and then swiping right or left after a cursory glance.
5. I'm not desperate for temporary attention from anyone.
I don't mean "desperate" as in you will date anyone or that you have no standards. I mean as in I just don't feel that it is OK for me to get on a dating app just to feel like I'm dating when I'm really not. I'm going into my third year of college and I'm about as single as they come, but I've never felt the need to download Tinder just to get a little temporary attention from guys who don't actually mean half of what they would say to me on there.
6. It takes away self-worth.
I am so much more than my profile picture, and so are you. You are worth more than being judged by others on an image. Like honestly, if you could see how many people actually swiped you left or what they said when your picture popped up on their screen how would you really feel? I'm not gonna let someone think they are personally giving me their attention by swiping me left or right on an app, whether they think I am the most beautiful person to ever step foot on the planet or whether they think I'm the ugliest thing to ever pop up on their screen.
7. I don't hook up.
Let's be honest, a lot of people don't actually use Tinder just to meet people. They use it to hook up with people, but I just don't do that. If you do, that's fine, you do you, but I know what Tinder is mostly used for, and I have no desire to get involved with that.
8. It takes an unnatural approach to dating.
It's so unnatural, this new dating approach we have going on. "So how did you guys meet?" "We met on Tinder, OK." I mean, my natural reaction is always a little standoffish when I hear this, not because I'm weirded out by the fact that you met your significant other by swiping right on a dating app, but actually, it honestly is a little weird to me and it seems like the whole meeting someone naturally has been taken out of the dating scene.
9. It instills false confidence.
So you're telling me if I download this app and a lot of guys try to talk to me that means I'm pretty and boys like me, right? If I download that app, I'm sure at least for a second that I would feel a little bit more confident, but it's false confidence because confidence comes from within, and you don't need some thirsty college boys on an app telling you you're hot to feel good about yourself. I already know I'm awesome, and so are you.
Maybe you're into Tinder. If so, I'm not trying to stop you. You could download Tinder today and meet the love of your life for all I know, but I still wouldn't contemplate downloading the app. I never have been and never will be about the Tinder life. Maybe I'll be single forever, but if it's because I never gave Tinder a chance, I think I can honestly live with myself.
