As a girl, there a few things that I believe all females inherently have. The ability to overthink, fall in love too fast, care too much about our appearance, underestimate ourselves and drive boys absolutely insane.
When I say drive boys "absolutely insane," I'm talking more about the little things we do that grind their gears to the point where they contemplate doing something drastic...like not replying to our messages for an hour. AN ENTIRE HOUR.
This isn't just for guys to high-five themselves and say, "Yeah, girls stink!" No, because they know that's not true. Guys may find it hard to live with us, but they can't live without us. However, this is for girls to open their eyes and realize guys are not as "crazy" as we may say they are...
1. If he hasn't responded to your text in 20 minutes... I guarantee you he did NOT die.
Constantly checking your phone to see if his name has magically popped up on your screen will not accomplish anything. Turning your vibrate and ringer on and off over and over again will do nothing except waste time. He's not replying because he doesn't want to talk to you, he's not replying because...*warning spoiler alert* he's busy. Just like you are. He'll reply when he can and you should do the same. Nothing can ever get done if you're waiting on someone else. So don't wait.
2. Reread the text one more time...I dare you.
Overthinking is one of our favorite pastimes. I know, I know you tell yourself all the time that you're going to stop overthinking things. Trust me, I've done that way too many times to know that it never stops. Rereading and interpreting every detail of his text message will get you nowhere. It will only make you more confused and your time is better spent elsewhere. Everything always works out, it always has and you know that. Plus, I would bet money he did not think too much about the text when he sent it, so you shouldn't when you receive it.
3. When he says, "I love you," he really means it.
It takes a lot for a guy to tell you how he feels and if he says those three words to you that he has probably only reserved for the incredibly special women in his life a.k.a. his sister(s) and mom, never question it. No matter how monotone or unenthusiastic it sounds, he wouldn't say it just to say it. He says it because he really means it.
4. Date nights do not have to mean actually "going out."
It's nice to get all dressed up and go to a nice dinner with him, but it's not necessary. No matter how long your together, more time will be spent in leggings and old sweatshirts on the couch binge-watching The Office than getting all dolled up for a night on the town. Wouldn't you rather have fun doing nothing together then always having to do something? That will only make the nights you spend going out all the more special.
5. Lower our expectations, not our standards.
As hard as this may be to comprehend, not every guy is going to be Thomas Rhett and write a song confessing all he needs in life is your love. They are going to make mistakes, overreact, miscommunicate and misinterpret things too. You can't expect them to be perfect for two reasons: First, it's not possible and second, how boring would that be? (Pretty dang boring, if you ask me).
6. Girls say, "hard to get," boys say, "tease."
Now, come on. What would be the fun if girls didn't make the boys work for it a little bit harder than necessary? I'll give this one to the boys, however, ladies, sometimes we take this too far. The chase may be fun for a while, but eventually it gets old. There's a very distinct line between having potential and just down right leading someone on. Nobody likes to be led on (and boys this goes for you too), it's not fun. So we shouldn't do it, just go for it! Some games are worth losing.
7. Yes, we know that "I don't care," is not a real restaurant.
Alright, fine. The jig is up. We actually do know exactly where we want to go for dinner. So next time you take us out for one of those special nights, force the truth out of us. For the record, though, we give you that dreaded three word response, because we want you to be happy with the decision too! But really though, they should just open a restaurant called I Don't Care. It would make bank, no doubt.
8. Compliments are always appreciated, in fact, they're widely encouraged.
If you think that she's wearing a new shirt, 99.9% of the time, she is. Also, she's waiting to see if you're going to notice and say something. Whether a guy says anything about your appearance or not, you know he thinks you're the prettiest girl he's ever laid eyes on.
9. What do you mean we can't be together 24/7? Clingy?! What's that?!?
You just left and we already can't wait to see you again. If we could do everything together, we probably would. I mean who needs time to themselves anyway?! Well, we tend to forget that you do, and it wouldn't be bad if we did too.
10. The best friend always knows the truth.
Want an inside look into a girl's mind? Ask her best friend. She has all the necessary information to provide you with an accurate description of what exactly she's feeling and when. Even if it's just to confirm your suspicions that this week is the worst out of the whole month. It's evil, but it's almost like we sometimes tell our best friend just to see if you'll ask. Evil, I know, but a little bit true.
