Tips For The Girls, And Hints For The Guys:

We’ve all had those moments where our girl’s night out gets ruined by that guy who wastes his whole night, and yours, trying to pick you up. There are two different approaches we normally take in attempt to shake that guy off. There’s the politely turn him down technique, where 9 times out of 10 he won’t take the hint, and there’s the honest but harsh method, which just makes you come off as a b*tch. Sure, different guys deserve different responses based on their sleaziness or persistence, but whichever route you choose to take, feelings will be hurt or time will be wasted. So what’s a girl to do when put in these tough situations? Let’s go over a few scenarios...

He offers to buy you a drink: The moment you enter the scene, your direct route is straight to the bar, where the inevitable is waiting. He uses the oh-so-clever line, “So what are you drinking tonight?” Well, this puts you in a tricky situation because who wants to turn down free alcohol? Take my advice and do not accept this offer. Once you do, you're making a deal with the devil because he has already invested money on you, and he will expect it to pay off. You will be forced to answer a million questions about yourself as you awkwardly stand at the bar and sip on your vodka club. The right thing to do is to politely tell him “Thanks, but I've got it.” You assert your independence and buy your own drink until the guy you're actually interested in offers. 

He asks you to dance: Yes of course you want to dance, just not with him. How do you avoid it? With the simple “Actually, it’s just me and the girls tonight." However, before making this statement make sure you give “the look” to your girlfriends that lets them know to grab your hand and pull you away immediately. If she’s a good friend she’ll be on top of it before you even look at her. If she a bad friend she’ll get a good laugh over it and let you suffer.   

He asks for your number: The night is coming to an end as the DJ announces last call...and after a grueling conversation, which he thinks went great, he takes the final step and asks for your number. You've already wasted a perfectly good night, with a perfectly good outfit on this imperfect stranger. Now he wants to continue to torture you by contacting you in the near future. Your first instinct is to give him a fake number; this is your biggest mistake. It probably won't be his first time dialing some random number in hopes of hearing a pretty girls voice on the other end.  If he’s a professional at being creep, he will say something like “I’ll call you right now so you have my number too." You can avoid this potentially awkward moment by saying “Why don’t you just give me yours?” This gives you all the power and will save you from having to put up with the numerous texts he will send the next day. 

Unfortunately for the guys, for most of us girls there is a paper-thin line between saying “hello” and creeping us out.  It’s neither fair nor realistic since we put an extreme amount of effort into getting ready, and then act surprised and disgusted when the guy we’re not looking at looks at us. So ladies, instead of being a rude or leading a guy on, follow these tips to properly turn a guy down.