This article is for the singles, the marrieds, the girlfriends and boyfriends who feel lonely in their relationship and for those who feel worthless at this time in their life.
I am recently single. Not like we broke up yesterday, but it has not been that long since the break up either. The relationship was a long one, so I feel as though being single is something somewhat new to me again. I am 21 years old, and although I have had my fair share of heartache and break ups, this one was different. This time, I have allowed myself to take a step back from things and instead of blaming myself and feeling worthless because another relationship failed, (and I am not saying it failed because of him, he is an awesome person), I have become extremely grateful for God's little ways of unveiling his truths.
You see, we are designed in a way that we need relationship, we need friends, we need people and when we feel as though we don't belong because we are single and lonely, or we are married and our spouse is the only friend we have, or when you're in a long distance relationship and you rarely see that person, we tend to attack our self worth. We tend to let that loneliness define us, and determine how worthy we feel as a person. It is a scary feeling, we, and I say we because I really mean we, I do this too. But we start to get anxious about our future and we ask ourselves, "Will I die alone?", "Am I ever going to feel like my husband loves me again?", "Is it my fault it did not work out?".
STOP. Before you begin to worry again, I want you to know that you were paid for. You are loved. You were thought about over 2,000 years ago when Jesus was on the cross dying for your sins. You have been paid for and loved for far longer than you have been single, married, or in a relationship. We are all in need of relationship, and luckily we always have one relationship and that one relationship is the one that should actually be determining your self worth. You always belong to the One and only Jesus, and that should make you feel the most worthy of them all. If you don't feel like you belong to the dating part of this world, that's okay, you get to belong to God. If you feel like your marriage makes you feel lonely, do know that you're not really alone because you have an even far more important and better relationship with God. If you are in a long distance relationship and you feel lonely because you don't get to see your earthly person, remember you have your heavenly person, AKA Jesus, so cling to him when you feel lonely, and I promise you won't feel lonely any more. And if you are in a healthy, happy relationship or marriage, still place your self worth in Jesus, because we are all human and we are all broken, and if your worth is set on the person you're in that relationship with, then you are going to question your worth when they do let you down at times.
So once again, if you are single, married, lonely, happy, healthy, boy, girl, whoever is reading this, I want to encourage you with some scriptures when you feel down.
Isaiah 54:5: This scripture says that your maker is your husband. That should already make you feel less lonely right here. You were made for God, he is yours.
Isaiah 43:4: This scripture says since you are PRECIOUS and HONORED in His sight, and because He loves you, he would give nations in exchange for your life. Ever heard someone say they would take a bullet for you? Okay, well God says he will do that but like x10000000. Nations for YOUR life because YOU are worth it to Him. The loneliness you feel does not determine how valued you are to the King.
Romans 12:5: This scripture talks about the body of Christ in which we belong. So even when you feel alone, remember you belong to the body of Christ.
Your relationship status does not determine your worth, God does. And from the looks of Him sending His only Son to die a painful death on the cross for our sins, I'd say we are valued, loved, adored, and treasured by the only relationship that really matters.
