I’ve always heard that love is an action, although Merriam-Webster might disagree, as by definition it is described as a noun in most dictionaries, often referred to as something that is equated as a feeling. Here are seven surefire ways to tell if the love is real.
1. When you can relate to all of the clichés.
Like “when it’s right, you’ll just know,” or “you feel like the luckiest girl in the world,” or he really is your best friend.
2. When you consider him with every decision you make.
Whether it’s getting a new color on your mani/pedi or trying a new perfume. You not only wonder if he’ll notice, but you consider if he’ll like it, not because your life revolves around him, but because you're making the effort to please your man.
3. When you can’t see your life without him -- and you don’t want to.
And you imagine what life would look like with him in the real world. Personally, the man that I love happens to have a career that requires him to travel a lot. So, there are days when I imagine the life of an army wife, so to speak. I think about the possibilities of me having to make the choice of picking up my life and moving to support him as well as the alternatives.
4. When it surpasses physical intimacy but you crave emotional intimacy or physical closeness instead.
When after a long day at work, you want nothing more than to talk to him and hear the calm that is his voice to bring you back to your center. Or just to lay in the nook of his arm, close enough to hear his heartbeat. (Reference to #1, #Cliché)
5. When his dreams become your dreams.
When he wants something so much that you want to do anything within your power to help him get there. Not that you lose sight of your own aspirations, but because you love him so much, seeing him happy, becomes your happiness. “Your happiness is my joy.” – DeJa K. Johnson
6. When the least you can do is the most you can do.
When you pray for his family because you love them as your own. When you call his children’s names in prayer with your own before you begin your day. When you ask for his protection, guidance and grace. When the least you can do is the most you can do for him, you pray.
7. When you have the kind of love that makes you feel secure.
I say this based solely on first hand experience. I have the contrary, that desperate love. The kind of love that wants to say “I love you,” because that’s truly how I feel, but for fear of not having it reciprocated in the form of “I love you too” but instead the complete opposite: no response at all. #TheWorst. Oh, no. The love that is truly meant to be will reciprocate everything that you give, almost like a boomerang. It allows you to be every fiber of who are, every single bit of psycho-loco that you are. And it won’t judge you for it. Instead, it will embrace you so affectionately that it will dissolve the loco that has been securely wrapped in protective layers of insecurity.
Trust me friends, you’ll know without a shadow of a doubt when it’s real love. Because even if he never says it again, you’ll know because he’ll prove his love for you, every day.
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