In relationships sometimes you'll find yourself with someone you aren't quite sure of. It happens to us all. He or she seems great at first and has everything you could possibly want: sweet, thoughtful, caring, good looking, funny, but there's just one thing missing and you aren't quite sure what it is. Well that thing missing is the spark, and you either have it or you don't.
So personally, I've always been on the opposite end. I think there's a spark with a guy and he later tells me (after talking to me for months on months might I add), that he just doesn't want a relationship and doesn't quite feel the same way I do. Never have I been on the end where I'm the one not feeling a spark. But plenty of people have been, so this is for you.
Having a spark can't be explained. You meet this person and they're all you think about. I mean obviously you don't go through your entire day with them on your mind, but you get the point. They occupy a lot of your thoughts. Along with thinking about them all the time, there's just something about them you can't get enough of. Is it their goofy laugh when the two of you are joking around? Is it the way he wraps you in his arms and holds you close when you seem upset? Is it the way your hands intertwine perfectly together? You don't know. But what you do know is that you have something with him that you don't feel for just anyone and it makes you feel all giddy inside.
But sometimes, there are those people that you don't have the spark with. Sometimes the way they laugh isn't all that great to you, and it actually kind of gets on your nerves. Or sometimes when you're upset you would rather be alone than be with them. Sometimes even when you hold hands it just doesn't feel natural and you find yourself thinking so much about it. These are the people that you need to let go.
Because you can't search for the spark. You can't convince yourself that maybe you have it, you just haven't found it yet. When you have a spark with someone, it's there from the get go. I'm a firm believer in two people that are meant for each other finding each other and just knowing it. Not love at first sight per say, but pretty dang close. It's that kind of feeling where you think to yourself not long after meeting them, "where have you been all my life?". It's probably one of the best feelings in the world honestly. We all deserve to find that person we have a spark with. This person isn't necessarily going to be your husband, but they are someone that you meet and your life isn't quite the same after.
So when going into any relationship, always ask yourself "do we have the spark?" And if you don't, then chances are it won't work out. Because being with someone and not having a spark, is like going dress shopping and finding the perfect dress but then trying it on and it doesn't quite zip all the way up. There's just something about that person that doesn't fit perfectly. But let's be real here, when you're in a relationship why would you ever want to be with someone that isn't your perfect fit? Because there's a dress out there that fits you like a glove, and maybe it's just me but I'd rather wait on that dress than try and wear one that isn't quite what I'm wanting.
