You Don't Really Need To Grow Up

You Don't Really Need To Grow Up

If Peter Pan can hang out in the woods all day, then why can't I?

Peter Pan was one of the most influential parts of my childhood that I can remember. I remember loving the stories that were told about him and I loved hearing about how he lived in such a way that he would never have to spend his life worrying about growing up. There is just something so comforting about knowing that there is a land out there, no matter how far away, where you can fight pirates, hang out with mermaids and dance and sing with Native Americans.

Peter Pan had the life that I wanted to live. One without worry, without stress and without anything tying me down. I was so nervous that as I grew up, I would have to change who I was to make the people around me happy. I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to live my life the way I wanted. And most importantly, I was afraid that I would be forced to grow up when I wasn't ready to. Unfortunately, as all young kids do, they do in fact grow up.

"Peter Pan" is a great story for kids though. It's a great way for kids to see what it's like to live in a world that is all about playing and having fun but you can also see the responsibilities that people are forced to live with. In the Disney adaptation, young kids can see how much fun it is to live a fun and exciting life with a great guy, a sassy pixie and a bunch of loyal Lost Boys. However, they can also see what it's like to miss being home and have responsibilities that they have to work with. Wendy was having a great time going on adventures and hanging out with all of the different types of people in Neverland until it was time for her to take responsibility and take her brothers home. And that is such a pivotal part of growing up. Realizing that you have to take responsibility for other people and the way that you live your life is a scary but important realization while growing up into adulthood.

I think what really got to me with Peter Pan was how important it was for him to stay in the same way that he always was. He never wanted to change what he was doing because he was so comfortable with it and, for him, growing up wasn't an option. The other Lost Boys had the same ideals as him until they realized that they might be able to have a mother and be able to live a life with growing up. Growing up is a really scary thing but sometimes it is OK. Growing up allows you to get better opportunities for things that you love doing. You would be able to go out and make a name for yourself and you would be able to get great jobs, make money to buy things that you love and you would be able to live your life right. You might have to grow up sometime, but it doesn't mean that you have to grow up in your heart! Stay young at heart! Play games all night, watch TV and eat popcorn with friends, buy bulk candy and stay up late at night. Growing up doesn't mean you have to change who you are. It just gives you the opportunity to live that life that you want. Shape it in the way that you want and you will always be happy. Never truly grow up. Stay young at heart and remember: if you ever need to get away, Neverland is only a quick fly away to the second star on the right and straight on 'til morning.

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.

It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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11 Amazing TV Shows That Are Ending in 2019

All good things must come to an end.


It might just be the beginning of 2019 but there are many TV series wrapping up already. There are many breathtaking and original pilots around along with several reboots coming. This might be one of the greatest year for TV.

However, all good things must come to an end. Some series have been planned out and are going to be finished while others have been cut short. Sadly, here's a list of TV series to say goodbye to this year.

1. The Big Bang Theory (CBS)

Final Date: May

12 Seasons//279 episodes

2. Orange is the New Black (Netflix)

Final Date: End of 2019

7 seasons//91 episodes

3. Jane the Virgin (CW)

Final Date: Mid-late 2019

5 seasons//100 episodes

4. Games of Thrones (HBO)


Final Date: Summer

8 Seasons//73 episodes

5. Broad City (Comedy Central)

Comedy Central

Final Date: March

5 seasons//50 episodes



Final Date: Spring

7 seasons//67 episodes

7. Homeland (Showtime)


Final date: Summer

8 seasons//96 episodes

8. Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (Netflix)

Final date: January 25

4 seasons//52 episodes

9. The Affair (Showtime)


Final Date: End of 2019

5 seasons//42 episodes

10. Friends From College (Netflix)

Final Date: End of 2019

2 seasons//16 episodes

11. Crashing (HBO)


Final Date: End of 2019

3 seasons//24 episodes

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