You Are NOT her.
I look at my boyfriend's ex and wonder what he see's in me. She is much prettier than I am. She is taller than me. Her legs are longer and prettier than mine. Her teeth are whiter. Her smile is bigger. She participates more in church. She dresses cuter than I do.
These thoughts fill your mind.
His parent's probably liked her more. I bet he still thinks about her. Does he wish he was back with her? I wonder if they still talk? Does his family ask about her?
These thoughts and questions are never ending.
You are NOT her.
Read that sentence again. You. Are. NOT. Her. Did you read that like it was a bad thing? Well, I'm here to tell you that it isn't. You're NOT her. There is a reason she is an ex. There is a reason that he is with you, not her. There is a reason that he cut all ties with her. There is a reason that he tells you he loves you, and not her.
He doesn't think she's prettier. He likes that your shorter than she was. He likes your legs. He likes your imperfections. He likes that your smile is genuine. He likes that your smile is contagious. He likes that you have a closer relationship with God, privately. He likes that you dress comfortable around him. Stop. Over. Thinking. His parent's love you, just like he does. She hasn't crossed his mind since he fell in love with you. He wants to be with you, not her. They haven't spoke in months. His family asks about you.
Stop overthinking. You're NOT her, but you're you. He loves YOU!
A girl will compare herself to an average of EIGHT people a day. EIGHT. That co-worker that is her same age, but is already married, pregnant, has a house, a full time job and a nice car they are paying for. That same girl, fights depression every day, her parent's don't talk to her anymore, she fights an eating disorder and her marriage isn't near as beautiful as her wedding. The girl on the cover of the magazine that's laying on the table at the doctors office. That girl is tanner, has whiter teeth, is taller and her make up looks flawless. That girl also has Photoshop. That's only two. Two out of EIGHT people that she will compare herself to today. Don't be that girl.
Don't compare yourself to someone, especially the guy you loves, ex.
